Three year old suddenly having massive tantrums. Could anyone Help?

Claire - posted on 03/11/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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He has recently started having massive tantrums about EVERYTHING. I'm out of ideas. Corner doesn't work, taking things away doesn't work, we're not about to spank since he's started hitting himself during some tantrums, even trying to change the mood with tickling or funny stuff doesn't work.

He's in a special Pre-K for speech with kids who have other special needs and I suspect there's other kids in there who get attention when they do that kind of stuff, so he sees it as ok. I have a conference scheduled with the teacher, but need some advice in the meantime.

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Connie - posted on 03/12/2012

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tantrums unless there is an underlying medical problem are all about attention and getting their way. at this age they are testing boundaries and as hard as it is the most effective way to deal with them is to simply tell them in a soft voice that you will no longer acknowledge them when they throw a fit and dont. you have to be consistant. if you give in to them they will continue to push whatever button they find. if they learn the behavior gets them ignored they will stop. it is not easy....especially when they are yelling and acting out. with my girls it came down to completely ignoring them, no speaking to them no looking at them, no reaction to anything they did, no to anything the fit was about until they could act better. leaving the room helped, sometimes they followed sometimes they did not. They will get through this as long as you are consistant. good luck and God bless!

Vanessa - posted on 03/11/2012

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i am dealing with the terrible tantrum three's....not fun at all! i think the daycare or school has alot to do with it personally. My kid is very happy at his daycare but then again he is extremly spoiled there,which i feel is a major issue. They watch kids throw tantrums and they get away with it so they feel they can do the same. I took him to our primary care doctor just to ask for some advice and he said **it can be a few things** the age is sometimes a lil phase. He said the school was his concern, so i am praying that this works because tomm. is our sad **new school** dayy! I will take advice from any source also.Goodluck

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Connie - posted on 03/13/2012

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lol.....i am sure that it probably hurt you more than it hurt him. one of my girls used to hit, one held their breathe, they all had their own ways of fit throwing. I know how hard it is my 7 year old is currently seeing fit throwing behavior get some of her friends what they want so she is trying her luck at it again. dont be afraid to stand your ground and dont let them be the boss. you can do it! God bless!

Claire - posted on 03/12/2012

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I'm trying (and ultimately failing) to ignore him. He will grab my clothes to the point of stretching them out while he screams. Tonight I tried to walk away from him to ignore him while he through a fit during a phone call and he ran face-first into the piano.

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