Tips for staying calm...
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Louise - posted on 12/20/2010
If you feel that you have reached the point of yelling then place your child in their bedroom that you have baby proofed, switch on the monitor and come down stairs and make a cup of tea. Your baby is absolutely fine for 10 minutes in a safe environment. This will give you breathing space and time to calm down before you fetch them. This worked for me when my boys were small I would send them both upstairs before I exploded because I knew if I didn't I would lose my cool and go nuts and then regret it.
Lisa - posted on 12/19/2010
I repeat to myself...this too shall pass!! Then I make sure that I spend some time getting down and playing. I tell them what we're going to do and that after that mommy is going to go to XYZ. I've found that usually they are driving me nuts because I've been busy doing other things and haven't spent a lot of time with them. Then after we're done playing, I let them pick out a movie and chill out. If they bug me, I just remind them that when I'm done doing what I need to do, I'll do XYZ with them.
Katherine - posted on 12/19/2010
Yes, they want your attention. If you are not attending, especially with a LO, you better believe they are going to drive you nuts! My daughter is 21mo and she will get into EVERYTHING if I don't pay attention to her.
Krystal - posted on 12/19/2010
Lisa is right, the main reason my little one acts up is because I'm too busy. But when I step back and listen to him, he calms down. He is frustrated that I'm not listening even when it's babbling he just want to be heard.
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User - posted on 11/11/2012
I dont understand how a time out can work! If your kid is wanting your attention and you walk away from them, wouldnt that upset them even more?! I know it does my 13 month old. I just have to remember that he's bored, lonely, hungry, tired or a combo of things and it's MY responsibility to make him happy. I usually grab a cold glass of water, breath VERY deeply then look him in the eyes and ask him "whats up". That usually calms him down or he tells me whats the matter. Remembering you are the adult and he learns from you an dhow you act usually helps me greatly. There is no real true way to stay calm cause we cant be Jesus or drunk all day lol
Yelling sends the message that you have lost control and lets the child think that they have the upper hand. I try to use a calm but firm voice and when I think I'm really losing it I call a time out. I'll take a break and go to another part of the house for a few minutes. This was impossible when my son was younger and couldn't be left alone. That's when I would put him in the play pen or completely change the activity that we were doing. Pull out some books, puzzles, color a picture - something quiet that will give you a few minutes of calm. If things are really crazy, I'll send him to his room to play for a few minutes.
Lissa - posted on 12/20/2010
I say to my little ones (5 and 6) that Mummy is a big grump and needs to have 15 minutes to be calm. I give them something to do, have my time, say thanks to them for understanding and then do something fun. Nobody wants a grumpy Mum so if your child is old enough to understand it works. When they were little I put them in the playpen with a few toys and got coffee while having a ten minute chat on the phone with sister or friend who would understand.
Kara - posted on 12/20/2010
Wow, it's interesting because I was thinking about this exact same thing the other day. I have a wonderful little boy who wants to play, be read to and obviously be loved. I've found myself getting too busy, then he'll do the tiniest little thing that frustrates me and the last thing I want to do is be "that" parent who yells or gets angry fast. I need to learn to give myself a time out, or at least 5-10 minutes to cool down - even a bathroom break! It's comforting to know I'm not alone.
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