Tips to handle a 6 year old Super active, naughty but a cranky boy.

Pooja - posted on 12/15/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I'm a working mom and have a 6 year old boy. My son spends most of his day at child care post school since i end up at around 21:00 pm. I have noticed that my child though being very active and naughty, he has become extremely cranky and whenever he wants anything be it a toy or a simple change in TV channel he'd cry and make noise. He just refuses to listen to whatever we say. I've tried a few ways to make him to listen to me, but it isn't working. A few of them being, not talking to him, telling him that he'd go to hostel, and sometimes a whack when he crosses his limits.

But somewhere im not happy with the methods i'm taking up to make him realise that he has to listen to his parents and needs to calm down a little. I'm worried that i'm trying to discipline him way too much and this might impact his studies as he's a very good student. I don't want to spoil his future by over punishing him. Pls can you suggest someway to calm my son and make him to listen to us and feel happy.

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Jodi - posted on 12/15/2014

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OK, so he isn't a naughty boy who needs punishment. He is a very TIRED little boy!! He is at school all day and then in child care until 9pm!! It is understandable that he is acting out. This is not something that should be punished. Instead, you need to find a way that your child will not be so tired. It is very normal for a child to act out when this tired.

Sarah - posted on 12/15/2014

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It sounds like you give into his demands......as long as you do that nothing is going to change. You have to set boundaries and stick to them. You also need to know how much and how long he can go....as far as his day and how tired he gets. Kids are going to get cranky when they are tired and hungry......not much you can do about that except to change the routine so rest and food comes earlier.

Also DO NOT buy toys or things because you don't get as much time with him. Instead budget differently so you can cut your work hours and spend quality time with him. The more to you spend together the more bonded you two will be will then decrease the naughtiness and the crankiness.

Jodi - posted on 12/15/2014

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Can I just clarify....your child is in child care after school until 9pm at night?

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Pooja - posted on 12/15/2014

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Agree to what you say Jodi and hence i do ensure i spend sometime talking and reading out stories to him at night to ease him a bit and a massage sometime. He sleeps all night through. My worry is that he's now getting into a habit of not listening and he easily gets distracted from whatever he's doing.

He just wants us to keep buying toys for him, whereas he never even bothers to play with it. And when i try to say a "No" he wouldn't take that for an answer and say that my friends mum always get a toy for him (that's just one of the things he usually does). I want some suggestions which can help me to better explain why I'm saying a "No" to certain things, without offending him or making him feel he isn't important to us.

I do understand that it's going to make a huge difference if he comes home early and gets time to relax, but as my working hours are different, i want to work things out the best way i can with the time i spend with my child.

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