Tis the season to be Jolly?

Helen - posted on 12/10/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I don't want my children 3y/o twins sitting on Santas lap. I don't mind if they stand next to the Jolly red man. I have many people who disagree with my perception and are quite judgemental towards my wishes. At a recent Xmas party bash with my multiple birth association Santa turned up to hand out presents. Now I have no prob if other people want their kids on Santas lap, that is fine. But someone else (when I wasn't looking and I thought my child had left the Santa arena) told my child to get on Santas lap (everyone there knew how I felt) and then took a photo and proceeded to show me laughing their head off saying "and there is the evidence". For all accounts and purposes it seemed set up by that person and further more they got off on going against my wishes. At this time I was already quite an emotional wreck as my brother had only recently passed away (which once again all were aware of). So I flipped out, gathered my kids and my husband (who stands by me) and we all left. Now I am being referred to as "loopy" and that I in the first instance should have left before Santa got there (according to alot of people there). Why do my children have to sit on Santa's lap? why can they just not stand next to him and receive their gift? I don't think I am loopy, I just don't want them on Santa's lap. How do I get these people to appreciate my perspective? I feel like leaving the Multiple birth club which sux because I have been a part of it for 3yrs and have taken up committee roles.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/10/2012

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Well just shrug and say you are just not comfortable with it. Turn away and start talking about something else. The more you address the issue, the more people probably want to prove you wrong.

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Helen - posted on 12/10/2012

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I am not preaching it to others and I don't judge others for doing it. I don't mind if other people choose to do it and I say that to them. They are the ones asking me why I don't want my kids on Santas lap. They are the ones who barrage me with questions regarding it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/10/2012

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I would just stop preaching it to others. It is no big deal that you don't want your kids sitting on a strange mans lap, but don't judge others for letting their kids do it. Just stop telling everyone about how you feel. Instead of freaking out, a cold shoulder to the person who did it would have made a much bigger impact. Sucks that someone would do that to you. Very immature and pointless.



I am sorry to hear about your brother.

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