To Pain Relief or Not?

Lisa - posted on 09/30/2011 ( 97 moms have responded )

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I am expecting my third child in Feb 2012, and am trying to decide if I want to try the epidural. My first two children were born with out pain relief, and that was fine. I hate needles and didn't want any more than the neccessary.
I am just wondering if any Mothers delivered babies with and without pain relief and how they felt about each birth.
I don't think I'd be disapointed with my birth experiance either way, as long as I get a baby out of the deal and no longer have to be pregnate!
Any thoughts?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/30/2011

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BECAUSE IT HURTS LIKE NOTHING ELSE LADIES! That is why she is considering it! You don't have to b a hero. It is very painful to give birth, and if you feel like you may want this birth to be less painful, more power to you!

Tanya - posted on 10/01/2011

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Hi
I had a long labour with my first, with an epidural. He was my first, but slow to wake up, difficult to feed, my milk didn't come in for an extended period. I knowhe was my first, but feel that the epidural contributed to some of the issues, I was also slower to recover. I agree with some other comments, the pain of getting the epidural is nothing (in fact I didn't feel it go in), compared to the pain of labour. 5 weeks ago I delivered my second baby, labour was very fast (approx 4 hours) and I arrived at hospital and he was delivered 10 minutes later. So, no time for and epidural. I feel like the recovery has been faster, feeding is better, baby more awake, I have recovered faster (moving around quicker). If I was to have a third, I would try without an epidural again.

Christina - posted on 10/01/2011

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I did two births using only water, movement, breathing and meditation to get me through. Had a very primal and organic experience both times ending in a water birth. Love and treasure my birthing experiences and would definately do it without drugs again. (especially after seeing mummas after epidurals) I was up and around when they were still layed in bed with catheter attached.

It is ALWAYS personal choice though, your birthing experience should always be an expression of who you are and whatever makes you comfortable so you are able to have the best birth possible.

If you've done it twice already, there shouldn't be too much of a worry going again, and there are other options like tens machines etc

Melissa - posted on 10/01/2011

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I had both my children with epidural and both times it was a great experience. I felt no pain and actually laughed and joked with the doctor in between pushes. You get no trophy or medals for feeling the pain so why do go through it. I was also nice to my husband and everyone around me. I hate needles also, but it felt like a little pinch on my back. That was the most pain I felt through the whole labor. Good luck on your decision!

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Angela - posted on 10/17/2011

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I have 3 kids (14,13,& 8); the first two i did without pain medication but for my last one I wanted to enjoy the moment. With my other deliveries I was in so much pain and shaking so bad. I couldn't hold my babies. What i will say is do your research and do what's best for you and your baby. No one has to go through it buy you. Good luck

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Megan, that's funny! I'm a huge Steeler's fan too. My doctor in OKC was a Cowboys fan (GROSS!). The doctor in MD didn't like football...can you imagine? LOL!

Megnk22 - posted on 10/17/2011

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Kathy, I was afraid of the epi at first - but then my husband helped me to relax and I honestly did feel great the rest of the time. I had such a great experience & can only hope my next is the same. I'm a Steelers fan & my anesthesiologist had an Eagles thing on his head - I glared him down as he walked into the room thinking - YOU ARE NOT!!!!! TOUCHING!!!! ME!!!! THen I came to my senses & didn't say anything to him until after he did it because I realized.. Your team or not, this man is about to stick a HUGE needle into your bad, shut up & take it haha!

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LOL! Megan, I told the anethesiologist who administered the epi with my first baby that I LOVED him! He said he has that affect on a lot of women! When I had my second son, I was bending the bars on the hospital bed because I had to wait longer for the doctor to get there and it was awful...they had to give it to me twice and didn't numb me up enough (based on my previous experience). I told the nurse I could still feel some of my contractions and wanted the doctor to come give it to me a third time. She told me, "We want you to feel some of the contractions so you know how to push." I told her I had had a baby before and new how to push! She told me that they do things differently in Maryland than in Oklahoma...not nice at all!

Megnk22 - posted on 10/17/2011

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I was in labor for 19 1/2 hours - but TRUE labor once the pitocin started was when I was begging for the epidural. That made it much worse than I think it would have naturally. The epi was my newfound best friend. My delivery was a breeze!

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I did without an epidural the first time and probably wont get one the second time. I'm afraid of needles and I really don't like the way pain meds make me feel so I really don't think I'd be ok with an epidural to me I think I'd feel worse if I got one but that's only because I can't stand the way pain medications make me feel. I enjoyed actually being able to get up and walk around right before and right after having her. If you get an epidural you can't do that. Just weigh the pros and cons and see which one you would want to do.

Tara - posted on 10/14/2011

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I tried to go without an epidural with my son, and let me tell you, that was a mistake. I would recommend one hands down! I don't know why anyone would go through that pain if they didn't have to. I had to get poked 3 times before they got it in the right place, but I would take that any day over the pain of the contractions! However, you had a good experience without having one, so thats a tough one!!

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Sherri, you are very fortunate, because for some women, the pain is more than they can handle. I will admit to being a bit of a diva at times, so I was all about the no pain thing. I'm happy you had such a great experience! :)

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I pretty much knew I was going to get as drugged up as possible with both of my boys. For some reason, with my first, I decided to see how long I could go without drugs. I was induced at 7:00 a.m. and at 11:15 a.m., one of the happiest moments of my life was to get that epidural! With baby number two, I was induced at 6:00 a.m. and had the epidural at 9:30 a.m. I have no regrets. I have never understood the need some women have to willingly put themselves through painful child birth. But I'm not judging either. I was able to spend the last hours of my pregnancy very comfortably and have decent conversations with my husband and not be yelling at him! Do whatever you feel is best for you.

Amanda - posted on 10/11/2011

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I was induced with my daughter and my OBGYN was very pro-medication and I didn't know any better. When she started the pitocin (spelling?) she also started an iv of pain meds (don't remember the name but it was a hallucinogen) and then had an epidural at 5cm. The epidural was traumatic for me because he had to stab me 4 times and ended up having to use a bigger catheter than normal and go higher on my back, getting the epidural was painful and I don't mind needles. I could move my legs but I couldn't tell when I was having contractions, my husband kept pointing them out on the monitor. I ended up having an emergency c-section so it was good that I had the epidural otherwise they might have had to put me under general anesthesia but I don't remember most of my labor and I will plan everything totally different. Familiarize yourself with the hospital's L&D policies to find out how late you can get pain meds if you need them. Good luck!

Tiesha - posted on 10/11/2011

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I had a spinal tap, similar to an epidural only its one time needle, it only lasted about an hour. I was more rested but it made my labor longer. I stayed at 7cm for 15 hours. When before the spinal I went to 7 in just 3 hrs. Worth the rest...but has its downs

Cerise - posted on 10/08/2011

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I think you should do what makes you comfortable. I needed a epidural because of how much pain I was in. I had a good Anesthesiologist so I could still feel the contractions. I think your body tells you what you need. If it doesn't hurt to bad then you might not need anything. Follow your gut.

Shauna - posted on 10/07/2011

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I have given birth to two beautiful, healthy boys. I didn't realize I was in labor with either one. Luckily, I was able to get an epidural with each, although I wasn't really hurting when they did the epidural (though I must state that I do have a pretty high pain-threshold). I had back labor with both boys & wanted their births to be a joyus event, not one filled with pain. With my 1st son, I delivered in 46 minutes & had to have a 3rd degree episiotomy (thank God I had the epidural during the tearing/cutting/re-sewing!!). With my 2nd son, although I pushed right at an hour & it was easy labor, I almost pushed my cervix out & they had to do a little work there. I have no permanant numbness or pain from where I had my epidural. If we were to have another child, I'd have another epidural, without a doubt!! HOWEVER, if you dealt with your previous labors without an epidural & didn't hurt too bad & you're uncomfortable with the idea of an epidural, than skip it again; but, if you think you want an easier labor, get it. Yes, there are risks of getting an epidural, just like there are risks when you get pregnant or even ride in a car. Just go with what you feel is right. Good luck in your choice & your labor.

Jennifer - posted on 10/05/2011

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You do what you feel is right for the baby AND you!! So many women are for "all natural" birth! Give me a break! It was our decision to get pregnant to have a baby and watch the baby grow, not worry about whether to get a lousy epidural or not. I'm so tired of it! You do what is right to you and the baby, not just the baby! If you are in extreme pain and it is near the cut-off time for epidural offering then take it. If it makes you more comfortable so you can enjoy having your baby (as much as one can), then go for it! I did what I had to do for the birth of my daughter and I don't care how I feel or what advice people give me about needle vs no needle...I will do whatever is best for the baby but also what will help me out a bit. Yes, epidurals suck to get going. That is no one's fault. No matter if you have a newbie or a veteran doing it- it is finding the right spot and that can be tricky most times so cut the doctors and nurses some slack please. It is like parents taking away a gameboy from their kid because the kid did something bad and needs to be taught a lesson. The kid thinks it is horrible but the parent is doing the kid a favor! The doctors and nurses are there to help get you and your baby through the delivery process as easy and safe as possible. I have had IV technicians and lab technicians slide MANY needles around in my arms, wrists and hands. Is that their fault? No! It's hard work! Anyways...you will get advice saying all natural, you will get advice saying epidural- it is up to you and how YOU feel during labor! I had an epidural and yeah It hurt getting it in. Some people have bad experiences after, I didn't. I don't care if I was in the "lucky" percentile or whatever people will want to tell me but we all have our own experiences. Your body will tell you how to play it as you go along. What happens after, you just have to do your best to deal with. But your best bet is to wait until your baby is ready to be born and go with what your body tells you. I bow to you that you did 2 natural births. I say try for a natural birth again but not each birth is the same! So go with whatever comes up. :)

Pamela - posted on 10/04/2011

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For the child's sake, don't do it. Any drug that goes into your body goes into the baby's body. Simple as that. If you didn't do it before, why now?

Natural child birth is the safest and MOST LOVING way to bring a child onto this planet.

Betty - posted on 10/04/2011

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I had three without epidurals. I know too many people who have had back pain and/or numbness after having them. Also, I believe when you are numbed by the epidural, you can't push as effectively and make it more likely that the deliver will be slower and the doctor may have to use forceps to pull out the baby if you can't push it out. I did have a little gas with my third when labor was long. I would not change it. All my babies were healthy and alert right after birth.

Stephanie - posted on 10/04/2011

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I was 18 when I had my first daughter and everyone told me I would love the epidural.....uuuummmmm, noooo! It took the guy 20+ minutes to actually get the needle in the correct place, which he poked me 4 times. The position he had me in made me have a contraction non stop the whole time he was poking me and telling me I needed to just deal with the pain, be quiet, and hold still. I couldn't walk for hours after it was taken out and I also had severe back pain for months after. With my second daughter I said no way to the epidural. Even though it was more painful without it, I would never get one again! It's really all about what people are comfortable with and what they can handle. Good luck to you! ;o)

Shaunntae - posted on 10/04/2011

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I have had 6 children (16 down to 3 months), 2 without pain relief. If the labor is going smooth and you can breath your way through it then go with out. But if they pain is too much, why put yourself through hours of misery?. My last child I got an epidural that let me control the amout of medication I received through a button. If I felt to much pain I pushed a button and recieved a small dose. I liked it because I was in control. Do what you feel comfortable with because every delivery is diiferent. GOOD LUCK MAMA

Suzanne - posted on 10/04/2011

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i had one with my first son and nothing with my second son, knowing what i do now i would never have one again. it took hours for me to be able to walk after the first with number 2 i was up and moving before he was an hour old.

Danielle - posted on 10/04/2011

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I didn't have an epidural. The hospital where I had my son didn't have that option at that time. They gave me medicine to take the edge off and it worked.

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Hi, I had my first two babies naturally with no pain relief and my third pregnancies was twins and for reasons beyond my control they had to be delivered via c-section and therefore and epidural. I would never, ever have an epidural again if I had the choice. I would go naturally again if you can.

Cara - posted on 10/03/2011

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I had first baby (7 lbs 15 oz) with an epidural, and labor was 30 hours long with 3 hours of pushing. Recovery was weeks long. Second baby (9 lbs. 8 oz.) was without an epidural because labor went so fast - 3 hours with 10 minutes of pushing. Recovery was only days. I think if I were to have a third I would still go with the epidural if labor were going to be long. I asked for an epidural with baby 2 but the nurse told me that I had progressed so fast that I could have the baby before the anesthesiologist would have time to get the epidural in. If the labor looked like it would be short I would probably try to tough it out without the epidural simply because I think my recovery post partum would be that much quicker - which would be necessary with 3 little ones around. Best of luck. Hope you're enjoying your pregnancy.

Sheila - posted on 10/03/2011

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I had an epidural with my second child, but my first and third without an epidural. All three births were very different, but I would not do the epidural again. The nurse that was with me throughout the 3rd delivery was awesome and used a massage technique that relieved most of the labor discomfort.

Bonnie - posted on 10/03/2011

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Just wanted to say that just because you get an epidural, does not mean you will have a pain free, comfortable labour and birth. Sometimes the epidural wears off early, sometimes it may not fully take, and sometimes it takes only on one side. This is what happened with me. With my second child the epidural only worked on the left side. I could feel the pain on right. So it doesn't always work. Just saying.

Teresa - posted on 10/03/2011

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i am now having my 4th 2 1-2 mon i used no drugs with the first 3 and plan not to with this one either ...

Mercy - posted on 10/03/2011

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Hi,
I have 4 kids. I have always been against the epidural! When it came to my last two (twins), I was encouraged by the doctor saying because it was a high-risk pregnancy, they strongly encouraged it. As a result, I went ahead with it (didn't really want to)! Well when it cane time to push, I couldn't feel a thing and nothing was working. U had to then wait to be weened off the drug and pretty much wait till I had feeling again.... So once I could strongly feel the contractions, then I successfully pushed out baby #1. when it came to baby #2, I had to wait till my body went into labor again because my cervix went back down to a 5!!! Now that may not have had anything to do with the epidural, but it just prolonged my experience more!
I'm done having kids now, but if I were to go through again, I would NEVER use the epidural!
If you could handle babies 1 and 2 drugless, you can handle 3 just the same with flying colors! Best of luck and have a safe delivery! Be blessed!

Anna - posted on 10/03/2011

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I think it depends on your pain tolerance. I delivered w/out an epidural, very painful labor but delivery was very fast (40 min). Of course, I didn't sleep for about 40 hrs or so while I was having horribly painful contractions instead of relaxing or napping like most women with epidurals. However, keep in mind that epidurals work on most ppl but not all. I know quite a number of ppl who had the epidural injections but still felt all the pain of labor. For one of my friends, the epidural worked for her right side but not her left so she felt all the pain on half her body.

ANNA - posted on 10/03/2011

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I have had all 4 of my babes with out drugs and would not do it any other way ever. I was a childbirth educator and I often had mothers come through my classes who had had epidurals before. Many of them had pain from the epidural even a decade afterwards. Good part of about childbirth pain naturally it is all gone as soon as baby is out. I also attended a birth where if I had not been there the lady would have died from the epidural. She was young and as she progressed she decided to get one. The nurse administered it and then just left her laying on her back. I got her up and sitting upright as soon as the nurse left. However she began to get very very numb all the way up into her chest almost right away. I went to get the nurse and when I told her she turned white as a sheet. She ran in to get her sitting up and was relieved that I had already done so, the rest of the labor they had to keep poking her with a needle to be sure she had some feeling up high, they were so scared her heart would stop.
Also, babies have no blood brain barrier. All the drugs cross their brain. The baby is very drugged at birth, the time in which they are being introduced to life and some very important wiring of the brain and imprinting is happening. Babies with drugs also tend to have more breathing issues and jaundice as well. I would suggest water birth if it an option for you. I would suggest some training and a doula.

Read the book spiritual midwifery, I think it may change your prospective on birth and have you seeing it in a whole new light.

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I had 3 without the epidural. If you felt like your first 2 deliveries went pretty well, then I'd say no. If you were horrified then you might give it a try. I was also afraid of the needle! Also, it is an added expense unless your plan covers it. I have a friend who had 3 epidurals and none of them worked correctly, so it's not an exact science. Also, my doctor told me it would slow down labor... I don't see any reason to prolong it! My 3rd came so quickly that I didn't even have to push.

Vicky - posted on 10/03/2011

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I'm planning to just see how things go and take it from there. I had epidural (well spinal block) last time as had to have a planned c-section as baby was breech, this time I'm hoping for a natural birth.

I'm hoping to not need/want the epidural as I had chronic back pain for about a week where I was bruised by the needle going in plus it slows down the birth as you can't feel so much and once you've had it obviously can't move about so much either.

I'd say just keep an open mind and don't beat yourself up about it if you do go for it, don't worry what others think, do what's right for you and like others say do your research as there are possible side effects you need to be aware of (and should be made aware of by your midwife etc).

Whatever you do I hope it all goes well for you, I'm due in Feb too (6th)

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Aketia - posted on 10/02/2011

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I have had one child with an epidural and one child without. My son, my first, was with the epidural and I think I chose that just because I had been in labor at the hospital for almost 18 hours. After getting the epidural, I was able to sleep for about an hour and then he came about an hour after that! With my daughter, she came so fast, getting an epidural wasn't even an option! It freaked me out! But, I felt better and recovered faster after her delivery than I did after my son's. And she was 2 pounds bigger! I think that if you can avoid it and think you can handle the pain, go without. But, we have all of these drugs for a reason, to help, so I don't think there is any reason to be a martyr. Both of my kids recovered fine and didn't have any problems from delivery.

Alexandra - posted on 10/02/2011

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it is ultimately your choice. i always got epidural and will with the next baby too, i want to enjoy labor, not be worried about pain.

Aimee - posted on 10/02/2011

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I had an epi with my daughter, I was 8cm dialated for nearly 4 hours and they gave it to me to calm my daughter down who was getting stressed at this stage and to give me a break. As soon as I got it I dialated the last 2cm quickly and it had worn off when it came to pushing her out (only had the one dose). Never had any probs with headaches etc. My little boy is due in 4 and a 1/2 weeks and I won't decide til I am in labour if I want one or not, depends how it goes. But I know I would much rather save my energy for my baby than go thru a labour like I had last time

Mia - posted on 10/02/2011

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Hard to answer, depends really on how things go on the day & how you're feeling. I know many people go in there with the best intentions to have nothing but to preserve their sanity & help them have a comfortable delivery they needed a bit of something in the end. My first I had just gas, the second a dribble of pethidine & gas & with my third I just had one shot of pethidine which did help and can't imagine how bad I would've felt without it. Each to their own, I just tried to see how I went with each & went on from there.

Brittany - posted on 10/02/2011

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Why be in pain if u dont want to. My personal opionioin and plan for when i had mine was see how long i coud take it and if i felt i needed it, take it. I unfortunately ended up w 2csections and had no problems w the epidural either time. In fact it was such an easy part of the process that i have to really thing to remember how it felt to get it. Its a personal preference. And theres nothing wrong with choosing it or not choosing it. Good luck to u and ur precous little one! :)

Kathryn - posted on 10/02/2011

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G'Day - it's a very personal choice and every pregancy is different. I had a "emergency" epidural because our daughter was facing the wrong way and stuck - I was scared but felt NO pain as all the nurses and doctors (and hubby) were FANTASTIC - I had no after effects from the injection.

good luck

Jenny - posted on 10/02/2011

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My first 2 were delivred without an epidural for the same reasons you said. However, I became pregnant with twins at 30. My dr was awesome and allowed me to make the choice of trying it naturally without a c section, even thbough most docs would have not allowed it because of the positions and sizes of both babies. The catch to this however, was I had to have an epidural "just incase" . If they had to do an emergwncy c section I neededto be prepared. I also delivered in an OR. I was terrified to have the epidural ans cried the whole time they were giving it. The nurse was great with me and helped me through it. I have to say getting it done was not that bad but I hated the fact I couldn't feel my body from the waist down. That was a horrible feeling for me. I also had a hard time telling if I pushing right or not cause I couldn't feel. I, personally, would much rather do it without. Women who swear by them think I am crazy and lying but its tru. I was disappointed with the birth experience but I think the fact I didn't get to hold my babies right away also had someting to do with that. Also, as it was wearing off, it took longer than it should have and I could not use the bathroom. They had to give me another catheder and it made me extremely sick to my stomach. These are all nomal side effects, which is 1 reason I opted to not have it before, but they are good reasons to not have it in my mind. Having said all this it is really something you have to seriously think about. Weigh all the pros and cons andmake that decision for youpersonally. Hpe this story wil help you. My sister inlaw decided to hve one anyway after this. Which, I believe there is no shame in. Good luck and enjoy your beautiful bundle of joy!

Lynn - posted on 10/02/2011

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If had no drugs with the other 2 why have drugs with your 3rd child, I say just go drug free only have them if you really need to. I had both my chidren drug free and so glad I did at least you are in control.

Tracy - posted on 10/02/2011

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There is another option to the epidural, but I forget what it's called. It's a pain med that's administered via IV and it helps take the edge off of the pain. I wanted to do that, but my son decided to take a nap right before they were going to "hook me up". So, my son decided for me. "No pain meds mommy." I wouldn't opt for the epi on my second because it numbs you from the waist down and once they administer it, you can't move around. You're stuck in that bed waiting.

April - posted on 10/01/2011

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There is nothing wrong with pain relief and I've never understood why women get so worked up and judgmental about it. Who cares? It's such a personal choice and it doesn't make you better or worse if you have an epidural. I have ton's of friends and family members who have done it both ways and an equal amount of them have had positive and negative experiences. My experience with epidurals is very positive. I've had 3 large babies and a fourth due in January. I've had an epidural with all 3 and plan to again with the 4th. I honestly don't remember why I had one with the 1st baby. I remember I had been in labor awhile and was so exhausted and the pain was intense. By the time I received the epidural I was already dilated to a 9. The pain of the shot was nothing. I mean that, I honestly can't remember any pain with any of my 3 epidurals especially compared to the contractions. All I can say is that my whole body immediately relaxed and I thoroughly enjoyed the entire birth. They rolled in a mirror and I watched with awe as our first daughter was born. I say watched but I didn't just watch, I also participated because an epidural doesn't paralyze you. I never understand when people talk like it completely paralyzes you and makes you helpless. People who say that must have never had one because you are numb but you can move, you can still feel the pressure of the contractions and the birth. You are still sitting up, changing positions if you need to and you are still doing the pushing. It's not like a c-section where you aren't even a part of the delivery. Anyway, since then I've had 2 other wonderful, event-free births that I clearly remember and enjoy. If you decide you want to go with an epidural, I will give you a few of my pointers. Wait until you need or want it before you ask for it. I never walk into the hospital and say "give me the epidural". I always walk around and go as long as I can without getting it. I like the freedom and there is nothing that says you can't take hot showers and baths, walk around, sit on a ball, whatever you want to do before you get an epidural if you want one. It's never taken more than an hour or so for the feeling to come back into my legs and for me to be able to get up and walk around. I've never missed my babies first bath or first anything as a result of an epidural. I really feel like that has more to do with the hospital you choose and the rule they put in place than the type of pain relief you have. The hospital we use does not require your baby to ever leave your presence or your room so it's just not an issue. In my opinion, having peace inside of you, a doctor you trust, a hospital or birthing center that has good, parent-friendly rules and you and your husband being on the same page about your decision is what makes your birthing experience a positive one. I wish you all the best and know that whatever you decide you will be happy with it. Blessings.

Jennifer - posted on 10/01/2011

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I had an epi with my first but not with my second, and we had big babies (9lbs5oz & 10lbs). My girls are now 10 and 12 and are both fine. Looking back on both deliveries I am proud to have delivered one completely natural but I know that had I not had the epi with my first daughter I would not have had a second. I would talk with the doctors and make sure you are totally comfortable with it. If not, then you know you can do it w/o so go with what you know. Either way, GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS!!!

Sabrina - posted on 10/01/2011

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I had both of mine without any pain meds. Pregnant now with # 3, and won't be using anything this time either. The pain of it is over soon enough, after the baby is out. I also like being able to get up, walk to the nursery and watch my babys first bath. Cane do that with an epi. I say stick with natural. I am!!!

Ez - posted on 10/01/2011

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No worries Lisa. I guess it really just depends on what motivates you to have a natural birth. If it is to prove a point, then yeah you've already done that. But if it is because you believe it is the healthiest and safest option for yourself and your baby (as I do) then it is worth it to try again (while keeping the option for pain relief in the back of your mind).

It really is entirely up to you and how you feel on the day. But if you have a history of precipitous birth, it's probably a mute point anyway because you will go too fast.

Lisa - posted on 10/01/2011

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I was just kinda wonder what other people thought of each experiance... (bumped the mouse before I finished my comment

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Erin H I had two kids with out pain meds and tore both times, the first time the delevery was complicated and the doctor said I had the worst tears he had seen in the 12 years he had practived medicine... thats not what I am afraid of. Honesty the tears were more of a relief from the pressure. I am concerned about a needle in my spine but also feel like I have nothing left to prove. Chances are this time around the labor will be too fast for any pain meds again. I was just kinda mus

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I feel like an epidural is something that is used as commonplace now, when it was meant for certain 'needed' conditions. Endorphins in natural childbirth will help you get a place where you can birth your child during a normal birth with no need for an epidural. I truly believe that if you don't require one, the best thing for you and your baby is to have a drug-free birth. With that said, each woman, and each birth is different, so needs change. I went in to both of my births with the idea that I did NOT want an epidural, and I think that conviction is the only reason I didn't end up with one for my first birth. I knew I wanted to do it myself and refused to allow the nurses to bully me into anything.
Go into it with the thought, as you already mentioned, that at the end of this you will have a happy, healthy baby. Whatever you need to get there is what needs to happen. Good luck :)

Sally - posted on 10/01/2011

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With my first, I was lied to and scared into an epidural. Having experienced it, I can understand why some women like them.
BUT, you completely give up your freedom if you get it. The doctors will do what they want when they want and you can't move below the waist so what are you going to do about it. While the scary side effects are rare, why risk them? It raises your chances of more and worse interventions by a lot. It DOES drug the baby which can cause breathing problems and make nursing harder.
With my second child, a hot shower provided just as much pain relief with plus mobility and total freedom.

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I delivered with and without the epidural. All i can say is...if you did it without, then you can do it again. For me recovery was much quicker without the epidural. Personally I probably would do it again, but only because I don't like pain. I had my second without because by the time I got to the hospital I was 10cm dialated, so I had no choice but to push without it.

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