Lola - posted on 12/02/2008 ( 242 moms have responded )
Upon reviewing some of the questions and replies to the questions I found it interesting to see the underlying debate about whether parents should spank their children or not. There are very strong feelings for both sides. I was raised by the belt and it worked. I dreaded getting in trouble and I greatly appreciate dicipline when I got out of line. When we were older, my mother joined a group called "tough love" which only seem to make things worse. They told her to stop spanking and start grounding or do time outs and such. When this happend I notice a VERY different behavior in my siblilngs (3) and I. I felt like I was getting off easy and rebelled a lot more. I do belive in spanking, however, there are certain circumstances that it should not be done, such as when you are angry-never hit out of anger that teaches a child to hit when angry. I explain the difference between a bad consequence for actions and hitting out of anger to my oldest, he grasps this very well, and so did I when I was younger. There also needs to be some constent boundaries and rules, if I do this, I get this as a consequence. It should never be left to whatever mood the parent is in at the moment. People are telling me spanking is wrong, although it isn't the majority of the parents I talk to. I just look at how things are going in the world today and see that the dicipline of old is being lost and i think it shows in how peopel behave today but that is a whole new topic anyway, I thought I would get some opinions on this topic.