To spank or not to spank? What's your thoughts?


Christine - posted on 05/07/2009




Depend on the kid, some kids can't stand t osit still and atime out is worse than death, those kids don't need to be spanked, but some do. You know your own kids.

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Honestly, I can't see a situation where it would be necessary. If my child is too young to understand a dangerous situation, why hit him instead of removing him from danger? If he's old enough to understand cause and effect, aren't there better forms of discipline that don't teach the child it is okay to hit? But most importantly, there are more effective methods out there.

Gayle - posted on 05/07/2009




I thought it was OK to spank. But if I did spank, then my kids thougth it was OK to hit when they were mad at someone. So I now think that spanking is not the answer to teaching your child. Spanking is hitting and you are just teaching your child to hit.

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Margaret - posted on 06/19/2011




I think it depends on the child. Some children do not respond to spanking and the solution there is to find the thing they hate the most (like sitting in the corner, for example) and use that. But there are some children (mine included) who are just plain hard-headed and need an occasional swat on the butt to get the point across. I do not feel that spanking is necessarily wrong, as long as it's used for discipline and not taken too far. I tried the multi-pronged approach with my kids, talking to them first, time-outs next, loss of priveleges, and then, if this didn't work, they would get a spanking. They are all well-adjusted, productive adults who are doing a good job with their own children, so I would consider that a positive outcome.

Jenny - posted on 05/07/2009




Generally no, but there are times when a little tap on the butt gets their attention enough for you to get an important message across. If you don't usually do it, it can be very effective to stop a fit that is just starting.

Sarah - posted on 05/07/2009




I agree with Gayle!!! and how do you not spank your child when you are not angry?? makes no sense!! Words work,,, time outs work too,,,,,,, spanking is merely a cop-out

Teresa - posted on 05/07/2009




I rarely have to spank my kid, but sometimes its just inevitable. I refuse to be a parent who is embarrassed by their children in a public place due to a temper tantrum that could easily be averted by "threatening" w/ a good spanking. Now whether or not you do it is up to you, as long as your kid thinks you might really go thru w/ it. My daughter has probably been spanked 10 times in her entire 4 years of life. I'm hoping that number will drop the older she gets. but who really knows.
Just do what works for you and your kid. Spanking isn't abuse, beating them is. There is a big difference.

Jolene - posted on 05/07/2009




It depends on the child. I also don't agree with actual bare butt type thing, but swats with a diaper on are different. Butt swats or hand taps do not work with my daughter, she doesn't get the concept. Time outs and stern tones work better.

Ora - posted on 05/07/2009




that is simply up to you. my husband and i spank and do time out. sometimes time out works for him and sometimes he needs a spanking. it's all up to you. if you do spank dont' do it angry bc you will hit harder than you intended to. and use your hands so you can feel how hard you are hitting.

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