To start KINDERGARTEN or not?Help..

Gena - posted on 01/23/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son turned 4 this month.He is going to playschool once a week atm. He could start Kindergarten this year in August. That would mean he would do two years of kindergarten and then start School.The playschool teacher said he would be ready for kindergarten.But to start the 2 year kindergarten is a desicion for the parents..he would only have to officialy start next year August. Eventhough the teacher said he is ready she also said she personaly would not rush..he could do another year of playschool. I really dont know what to do.. I somehow think its too early because then he will start to be in the School System(gone everyday). I would like to enjoy another year of him with me. But would that be selfish? If i send him to playschool for another year i will send him twice a week. I would love to read any opinions..advice..Thanks!!

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Dove - posted on 01/24/2015

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If it doesn't feel right, it doesn't feel right. NO ONE knows your kid better than you. Making friends is typically easy at this age (for a lot of kids, certainly not all of them).

I do know a lot of kids here that did 2 years of K and they were fine as well... so just know that whatever you decide it CAN work out. :)

I think your plan sounds good... and I must say... those preschools AND Kindergartens sound awesome over there.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/23/2015

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Gena,

As Dove said, in the US there is a system to set a cutoff date for children to start K. Some school systems will allow a child who turned 5 in July start the following August, but others will not allow it unless the child was born prior to January in the year that they would start K.

My eldest would have been eligible to enroll in Wyoming, under their standards, but not in Colorado, so I did enroll him in a private school for the first half of his Kindy year, and then transitioned him to the public school. He thrived. However, my youngest would have bombed! I actually held him back and he didn't start until he was almost 6, and he's thriving too.

Were it me...I'd wait the year. The only reason I started RB earlier was because the kid was so damned precocious that he was already at a first grade level in most of his skills, and he was driving me crazy trying to keep him challenged!

Ev - posted on 01/23/2015

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I have to agree with Dove on that and also mention that in the states that most school systems have a date that they go by that kids be five years old before they can go to Kindergarten. Where I live I think they have to be five on or before a date in August or September considering they usually start classes up in August.

Dove - posted on 01/23/2015

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Considering he is only going one day/week now and he would go 5 days/week in K... you really need to think about this. I know no place in the US that would allow a January born kid to start K at only 4 years old... but then the way the US does things is not always 'right' either. ;)

You really need to know your child and what you think he is ready for. I do have a daughter that started K at 4.5 (December born). She is in 8th grade now and has always done fine. My son? I am VERY glad that he did not start K til 5.5... He's in first grade now and doing very well, but even though he is smart and very well behaved in school... it is a LOT for him.

Personally, if it were my son I would put him in another year of preschool for 3-5 days/week before jumping him into Kindergarten.

Jodi - posted on 01/23/2015

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Boys have a tendencey to be less ready (in particular, socially) for school at an early age. Research has shown that girls are more advanced in this respect, and I must admit, my experience, both with my own kids and those I know, seem to support this.

I don't know how the school system works where you live, but here, Kindergarten is the first year of 13 years of big school - most kids are at least 5 when they start in February.

My son turned 5 in the September and I wasn't sure right up until a month or so before whether he was actually ready. He was fine in the end, and is now in his final year and doing just fine.

My step-son turned 4 in the May before he was due to start and there was no way he was ready, so he was almost 5 1/2 when he started. He is excelling now, he needed the extra time.

My daughter, she was a March birthday and started before she turned 5. She is doing really well.

I don't know if that made any sense, but basically, use your instincts. if you feel your son is not quite ready, you are probably right. We had one that was and one that wasn't. Just remember it isn't just about academic readiness, it is also very much about social readiness.

This sin't a question any one person can answer for you :)

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Gena - posted on 01/24/2015

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The forest kindergarten is very interesting. The kids are never inside,they have a small hut for when it rains. So they basicly play and eat outside in the woods. And what i find good is that they play with things the nature gives..like sticks,leaves etc. I will go with my feeling and send him another year to playschool,but with one day farm school. Then his 1year of K i will send him to the forest kindergarten :-) thank you all! The input really helped me make my decision!

Jodi - posted on 01/24/2015

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If you feel it isn't right, then go with that. There is no hurry. He WILL make friends. Friendship groups change a lot in those first few years, so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Gena - posted on 01/24/2015

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Thank you all so much for your Input!! If he would start this year he would have to do two years of kindergarten and then start School.They offer a forest kindergarten where the Kids are outside everyday no matter what weather,rain,snow etc. But the Playschool also has a Farm playschool.The Kids are on the farm and can help with animals.I think i will send him there once a week and normal playschool once a week. I guess its the other mothers around here that i know that are making pressure. They say things like "if he doesnt start this year he wont have any friends yet". The playschool teacher also told me that alot of parents send their children for the 2 year kindergarten because you dont have to pay for kindergarten.We pay for the playschool but i dont have a Problem paying 450 fr for a year. I am glad i asked here because every mom i ask here says i should send him. For me it just doesnt feel right yet.

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