Meagan - posted on 06/09/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
I am a 25 year old mother of a 2 and a half year old. I have been working full-time for the same company for 2 years. I also am the co-owner of a photography company in Kitsap County, Wa. I have a very solid support system at home, including a wonderful husband and very helpful parents. However, lately I have noticed the lack of time spent with my daughter. I work odd hours, while my poor husband works the grave-yard shift, and by the time either of us gets home, we are both so exausted and frustrated with our jobs, that neither of us have the energy to be active parents. We began to notice that our little one did not want to come home with us when we would pick her up from Nana's house. She didn't want to play with us when we would ask her, she just wanted to play alone. And when she was home with us, she was acting out. (Hitting, having a sassy mouth, and being stubborn) I have been on a leave of absence from my job for about a week and have noticed a VAST improvement in her attitude and manners. And also in MY OWN ability to give her the attention and patience that she requires. My husband and I have talked about it and we have agreed that I should not return to work and that I should focus on spending time with her and growing my photography business. He has suggested that he pick up some over-time at work to make up for my working from home. While I appreciate his offer, I do not want him to exaust himself further, and of course do not want to put a strain on our relationship with financial troubles. I know, for sure that I do not want to continue to work for the company that I am currently with, but I feel badly for putting all of the financial responsibility on him. I need advice...should I go back to work Full-time and continue to miss out on important time with my child? Or should I stay home and potentially cause our family financial hard-ship? My business is starting to become more successful, but it is not steady income at this point. I have applied for several part-time positions. However, I am the kind of person who invests herself in any job she has, which increases the potential for full-time or advancement. While the income would be wonderful, I want to spend time with my daughter. Please help me to make this difficult decision. Thank you!
-Mom with Mixed Emotions...