toddler bedtime help please!

Lacey - posted on 01/26/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My daughter is almost 19 months and we never got in the habit of letting her fall asleep on her own in her crib. We went from falling asleep nursing to the swing, then holding and walking, rocking with a bottle, and the most recent was reading her to sleep on the couch. Now she doesn't want to sit still, put her pjs on or anything, and just cries when I put her in her bed.

I love being up with her, she is very happy. However, when I put her to bed at 8pm I would study from then until 10pm so I could get up at 5am to attend grad school. I don't want to hear her cry real long in bed and really don't know what to do!

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Belinda - posted on 01/29/2012

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By the way, there are other things that you can do to make bedtime easier.

Belinda - posted on 01/29/2012

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Yes 5 hours is definately too long between nap and bedtime. At 19 months the average sleep for a child is as follows: 1 nap a day (about 2.25 hours) and a total of 11.25 hours of sleep a night. Try to push the nap back to begin between 1230 and 130. (so after lunch would be a good time). This would make bed time at 8 possible, but I would still shoot for 730. You may find she starts sleeping a little later. If your schedules make a later wake up time difficult then try consistently for the earlier bed time.



Pm me with any questions or concerns :)

Lacey - posted on 01/29/2012

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Belinda I will try some of your tips. And her schedule is usually like this: up around 6, nap about 1130 for 2-3 hrs and bed around 8. You think 5 hours is pretty long between nap and bed? I had wondered if it might be. Getting her to bed between 7-730 will be tough with our schedules but if it makes it easier on everyone will probably be worth it.

Belinda - posted on 01/28/2012

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without knowing more about the situation, my recommendation would be to 1- bring bedtime up to 7pm/730 (when she is in the crib) consistently, 2- make sure that she is napping enough during the day and 3- that there is only a 4 hour (absolute max 5 hour) break between last nap and bedtime.

Lacey - posted on 01/28/2012

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Sometimes she is tired before 8, and is in bed between 7 & 730. Though some nights she could sleep at 6 it seems.



And we do have a routine, I try to calm things down and turn the lights lower as well. Without making it sound bad, sometimes when my husband is home he is part of the problem. He works days and nights, and doesn't seem to appreciate calm and quiet like I do, so it makes things challenging.



Thanks for the advice!

Kay - posted on 01/28/2012

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Bed time routine! It helps. My older son had a lot of sleep issues--I was a single mom living at home with my parents, so we shared a room. Not ideal for sure!



Our routine is quiet time, when we do a puzzle or color; bath time; bedtime book; and finally bed.



It can help cue them that it is bed time.



Good luck!

Belinda - posted on 01/27/2012

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Watch her sleep cues carefully, she may actually be tired BEFORE 8, in which case by 8 she is overtired and fighting sleep.

Lacey - posted on 01/27/2012

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Thanks I will give it a shot. It's funny how she can no longer appear tired at 8 when her schedule is the same as it has been for 6 months. They just keep ya guessing!

Sherri - posted on 01/26/2012

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Put her in her crib but sit beside it with no communication or eye contact. That way she knows you are there and she is safe. Please still expect the tears that is what she is after is to break your heart. Just know that she is safe and okay.



The next night same thing just move a step or two closer to the door. The next night same thing just closer to the door. Till finally you are no longer in the room with her any longer and she does it on her own with no more tears.

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