Toddler defience in public

Crystal - posted on 01/25/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Does anyone else have a very active 3 year old? Mine is all over the place in stores and mouths off to me. This is hard for me because a break from him is few and far between.
I am very strict and very stern and yet he just pushes too much

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Denikka - posted on 01/25/2014

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It may be because you're very strict and stern. 3yr olds tend to be very active, boys even more so. Give him opportunities to run off his energy, especially if you're going into a situation where he needs to be calm. Instead of giving a flat out *no*, replace no with something he can do instead.
For example, in stores, find something he can help with. Keep him occupied. Hand him cans to place in the buggy, or fruits and vegetables to place into bags. Let him help as much as possible.
And treat his behaviors the same way you would at home. What I have found works with my children (and I have a VERY active almost 5yr old boy and a 3yr old girl :P) is to allow them a fair amount of free reign, but when they start getting riled up, I make them stop, I get down to their level, hold their hands and make them look me in the eye. Nothing happens until they stop and look and me in the eye. Then we take a few deep breaths. Once we breath and they calm down for a second, I tell them that they are getting too riled up and they need to calm down. I give short instructions like *no more running around* or *no more yelling* to drive home the point of what I specifically want them to do.
It is only after this warning that, if they continue the behavior, then I would issue a punishment.

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