Toddler doesn't play alone

Tatyana - posted on 09/29/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hi, I would like to know how long you play with your toddler in a day? My toddler does not want to play alone :(

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Cecilia - posted on 09/29/2013

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Oh and make him part of the daily chores when you can. As you do laundry play the match the socks game. Let them go through the socks while you fold laundry. When I do dishes I give my 2 year old a sponge and a spray bottle of water and let her wipe down the front of appliances, then she'll help me clean the water off the floor when we're done.. You'll find creative ways to have him near by and get things done :)

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Tatyana - posted on 10/01/2013

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Oh Gena we do exact same what you said especially vacumecleaner :) He even bring his cars when i bake he builds mountains etc out of dough for his cars. Ok great to hear that someone else does it too. As Cecilia aid its not long before they take off and do their own thing. I will relax more about it and enjoy him more.

Gena - posted on 10/01/2013

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My almost 3year old son has phases where he will go to his room and play with toys or look at books alone but only for about 30minutes and its not everyday.He is pretty much always around me.We do basicly everything together.We also do the laundy and washing dishes together and now we started to cook together.I let him stand on a chair so he can wash the potatos etc. We "fight" over the vacumecleaner lol..so i let him do his thing until he gives it back to me..takes longer but he loves it so i dont mind.I am also going to read that link Cecilia posted.

Tatyana - posted on 09/30/2013

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Thanks for link Cecilia, I will have a read tonight. It is great to know that we have not gone over board playing with our boy. I have spoken to couple of other mums (friends) and in general none of them spent more then hour or two playing, that's why I thought we were doing wrong thing. I guess it all depends on childs needs as well. Thank you once again.

Cecilia - posted on 09/29/2013

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" We can confirm now that forcing "independence" on a baby leads to greater dependence. Instead, giving babies what they need leads to greater independence later."

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/mora...

I know it is about the cry it out method for babies but I think it still applies. If she's 5 and still not gaining some independence might be time to push her into social settings to get her out in the world a little.

Cecilia - posted on 09/29/2013

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When he wants independence ( like walking next to the cart while you shop) allow it as long as he follows the rules and behaves.

I can look for a study I read on psychology today that says by giving them all that attention is actually better for them and their independence. They learn that you'll be there when they need you which makes the big world much less scary.

Tatyana - posted on 09/29/2013

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Cecillia, you do have a great point there. I guess sometimes just gets a bit challenging when you have to do other things and he just follows you everywhere. We do play with him most of the day so I was wondering if that will just do him harm ( not teach him independence etc ).

Cecilia - posted on 09/29/2013

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Mine doesn't play alone either. I don't really mind honestly. There's only so many years that she wants to spend with me and then she is off doing big girls things with friends. Enjoy the fact that you are #1 in their life.

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