Toddler routine

Tanya - posted on 12/26/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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How do make sure my toddler keeps his rutine that he learns at home with my ex who gives in to his tantrums?

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Tanya - posted on 12/29/2013

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Thank u so much it helps being reassured and knowing others have dealt with this problem

Jodi - posted on 12/27/2013

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Actually, you can't control how your ex manages his home. Certainly, you can try to talk to him about it, but if he is hanging up on you, then there is not much you can do. He runs his house differently than you do. You can't control that. Neither can the court or the lawyers. if you walk in that court room trying to add instructions into court orders on how your ex must handle tantrums, you will look like a control freak.

You can only control what you do in your house. Enforce routine in your house when you have your child, and he will do whatever his routine is. I understand the frustration. My son used to come home from his dad's and I'd have to deal with the crap for a couple of days until we got back into our routine. I promise you it passes,. Eventually, your son will understand the different rules in the different houses. Ultimately, however, you cannot control the rules in your ex's house, and no judge will try to impose that.

Tanya - posted on 12/27/2013

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Thank you I have been trying he hung up on me last night when I was discussing that. It's frustrating and I still have one more court date in January i don't know if lawyers though can make him listen either

Vivienne Frances - posted on 12/26/2013

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Be very firm with your ex in regards to giving in to the tantrums...tell him straight,and make sure he understands that in the long run it's for the best,otherwise will be a confused toddler,and it's sooo not fair on child,best of wishes :)

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