Tiffany - posted on 11/05/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )
I have a 3 year old who can be very sweet when he wants to be but within the past year to year and a half his behavior has gotten increasingly worse. I’m literally at my wits end. 2 nights ago he had a tantrum that lasted over an hour and included him repeating the same thing over and over again, kicking screaming, crying, demanding, not following directions (take a shower, eat dinner), cursing and urinating on himself. Last night he cried himself to sleep for 30 minutes because he wasn’t allowed to watch TV. We cannot even go out to eat because he throws outrageous tantrums. I have tried taking things away and having him earn them back, corner, time out, yelling at him, talking calmly and trying to reason with him, spanking, rewards for good behavior, letting him cry it out, ignoring the behavior, NOTHING WORKS! I have also tried enrolling him in sports to keep him busy and not in trouble and he seems lazy or uninterested. Now this morning his preschool came to me about his behavior and stated they will have to write him up next time and he may be removed from the school. I mentioned this to the doctor about 6 months ago and she said this is normal behavior and I have to deal with it until he outgrows it. After working with children for a number of years, I disagree with her but would like other opinions. I’m not a negligent parent, I don't just prop him in front of TV and call it a day, we go many places and do many things together so I don’t think he’s “missing me”. I have made an appointment to see a different doctor next week and was going to ask that his teachers keep notes of his actions at school……any help, ideas, suggestions, comments? I’m a single mom and my boyfriend does try to help but we are both stressed to the max and we see no improvement at all. Is there a light at the end of the tunnel?
*Note: not sure if this makes a difference but his father does have major anger/rage issues and uncontrolled ADHD. He has some contact with his father (court ordered visitation) when he comes around and after being with his father his behavior is always worse. Father says “it’s just his personality and he needs love, not more discipline”.