Toddler Weight Gaining Tips Anyone?

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My son is 2.5 years old ( he was 10wks early ) he is about 37-38inches but only weighs around 28lbs; im looking for any tips on how to get him to gain a couple pounds i just feel he is really skinny for his age compared to kids i see that are the same age as him but weigh about 5-10lbs more... hes in the 25% for his weight so idk.. he will not do pedisure at all.. but he does take a vitamin every morning.. any tips or am i just being over concerned?

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My 2 year old is a skinny girl. We give her heavy whipping cream in Ensure and her peds dr is aware & fine with this. She is 39 inches tall & 29lbs. Withhout the Ensure (vanilla only & room temp) & heavy cream I have no idea how skinny she would be! The heavy cream is loaded with calories per table spoon & she needs the fat. I also give her real butter on her toast. She has also seen GI dr's who are ok with this. Sometimes you have to get creative. Take a look at the heavy cream next time you go in the store & maybe mix it in his milk if he will drink milk.



Mine is super picky too & has issues with texture! All fluids she gets have calories (juice or Ensure). The dr isn't worried but I have to work daily to make sure she gets enough, she will rarley eat more than a tablespoon in a sitting.

Michelle - posted on 10/07/2011

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Is your doctor worried about his weight? I wouldn't compare him to other children. Every child is different and the fact he was 10 weeks early could be a factor in him being smaller. As long as he is gaing weight regularly it doesn't matter, he may just be a small person.
Are you and his father small? It could also be genetics.

Margarita - posted on 10/09/2011

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Has he had blood work done? Most kids have it done at 2. If his counts were good and since you mentioned his ped is not concerned, neither should you. The only reason I mentioned blood work is that some minerals and vitamins are fat soluble and some thinner kids can be a little anemic (though certainly not all and rarely dangerously so). At any rate, if it makes you more comfortable, you can make sure you give him higher calorie versions of his food (whole milk and full fat cheese and yogurt instead of the lower fat versions) and make sure he's getting plenty of healthy fats (nut butters, food cooked in olive oil) and that he gets plenty of protein and whole grains. If he's anemic, make sure he gets iron rich foods and add that he takes vitamin C rich foods when he eats them (ie - oj or some mandarin slices with his roast beef). They also have iron supplements, but they can be constipating, so I'd steer clear unless your doctor considers it necessary. Keep in mind that at this age, their digestive systems are quite small, so snacks are a good thing, as long as they are healthy (actual fruit, cheese, yogurt, whole grain crackers and breads with peanut butter, etc). At this age they are actually old enough to tell you when they are hungry and when they aren't, and not likely to ask for food just because. It's not until we get older that we tend to overeat because we've been conditioned to clean our plate or take comfort in food.

As for being a worrier, it comes with the territory. We all do it. Try to relax and trust your ped. Pretty soon you'll find something else to worry about.

Jodi - posted on 10/07/2011

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Percentiles are there for a reason. Someone's kid has to be the 25th percentile. What that means is that 25% of babies are smaller than that. So basically, your son is perfectly normal. My daughter has always been around the 20th percentile (except when she was a bub, she was born 3rd percentile and stayed around that for the early months). She is skinnier and smaller than a lot of kids her age. She is now 6 and is STILL smaller. It's normal. Not all kids can be the same size. There is average, and then there are those that are a little either side of average. All of them are normal.



I wouldn't worry about forcing him to gain weight. Just make sure he eats healthy nutritious food and he will be fine.

Minnie - posted on 10/07/2011

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I have two girls, both born full term, who have been in the tenth percentile or less since six months. They didn't hit 28lb until...well, my second is turning three next week and that's what she weighs, at 38 inches.



Is your son meeting milestones? Is he gaining weight, even if it's reaaaally slowly? Is he active and happy?



Children don't have to be the average weight. There are thin adults, can't there be thin children?

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Bethany - posted on 11/15/2011

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cheese sticks and cheetos...my son is in 99% height and 96% weight...all he eats is cheetos...also we used toddler formula thru 24months...get the pediasure that always does the trick...

Kay - posted on 11/09/2011

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Very informative answers. Here I was extremely worried about my 3yrs 8mth old who weighs 32lbs compared to others i have asked who says their kids are bet. 8-10lbs heavier than he is. He is very active and a picky eater and takes vitamins and eats thinks like potatoes, carrots, brocolli (which he loves btw), rice, mac n cheese. he hates meat of any kind. No chicken, fish, beef. I try to sneak it into his meals by placing it under the foods he eat and as soon as he tastes it he spits it all out.

Sharlene - posted on 10/21/2011

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Hi, I've had 3 premmies all of them were under 1500 grms .They usually catch up to around the age of two. but if your going to see the clinic they can probably suggest other extra weight formula,custard and alot of fatty oilly foods once on soilds.All the best

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i thank all of you ladies for the great advice; its made me feel at ease and i havent been worrying as much :) my son is on the go ALL day and is a very busy boy so im sure he probably plays what weight he is gaining off . but all the great advice has def. helped me !!

Stefania - posted on 10/21/2011

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i know,it can drive you crazy .My daughter was below the charts(like -5%) the dr made a chart for her .lol 10wks early takes a long time to make up.My daughter now at 9yrs old is where she should be. It really sets you back when you are a preeemie.(she was only 3wks early) I would let the dr guide you.It is better to have a thin child than one that is on the heavy side.As my pediatrician says...."you dont ever see any fat old people, right?" so ...thinner is healtier down the road.Don't worry too much.

Gail - posted on 10/19/2011

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My son was full term weighing 6 lbs. and 14 oz. He didnt gain weight very well. I breast feed and bottle fed him until he was 5 months. He would drain me and then take an 8 oz bottle every 2 hours. The bottle was made 3 oz water and 2 scoops of formula. When he came off the breast milk it took 3 bottles every 2 hours to keep him satisfied. When they let me put him on baby food he ate 2 vegetables, 2 fruits 2 meats with fruit, 2 meats with vegetables, 2 desserts and an 8 oz bottle of formula every two hours. All that food and he only gained 1-2 lbs a month if i was lucky sometimes he didnt gain anything. He eats constantly and he didnt get to 50 lbs until he was 8 years old, he is 13 1/2 now and only weighs 96 lbs at 5'4". So dont worry too much unless the doctor says anything. My dr. told us to give him high carb foods

Becky - posted on 10/18/2011

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My 2 1/2 year old daughter was "full term," and she's a healthy 28lbs (I just weighed her this a.m).

Vickie - posted on 10/18/2011

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You probably don't need to worry about it. My son was 4 weeks early and also very skinny (he was at 5%) at only 25 lbs. He stalled at 25 lbs for a long time (about 9 months), but he was eating healthy and at a normal level for him. Eventually he started growing faster and eating more. If you feel he's eating well, just wait it out. He will be fine. If you feel he is not eating well, maybe read some posts on picky eaters. -- To answer your question, you could start adding butter to his oatmeal, toast, etc, but I don't think that is really the type of "weight" you want him to gain. My advice... be patient. He will come around on his own.

Christine - posted on 10/18/2011

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Hello Skyler, I feel the urge to write to you as we have the exact same children ! Our son, 2.5 years old 11 weeks early, (weighed under 2 pounds at birth) is approximately the same weight and size as your son. Whilst he is the smallest (in the 1% for his height, father and I are not on the basketball team !) he is probably the lightest amongst his peers. I'm not worried, he eats well, he runs, plays, spends energy all day long and any chance he can ice cream before 'real food' he will. He is healthy in every respect, cognitive, motor skills, development and brattiness! So I will take it! When he is a teenager I am sure you will have to put a padlock on the fridge ! Enjoy.

Adela - posted on 10/18/2011

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I'm pretty much going to say the same as other mommy's. My son is 3yrs old and weighed 27lbs at his check-up. He has NEVER been above the 25%. But he eats 3 meals a day and 2 snacks a day and also occasionally drinks Pediasure (OCCASIONALLY eats fast food but MOSTLY homemade). I was extremely concerned when he was a little younger because he was at 15%. But his pediatrician said he most likely is taking after my husband who has a fast metabolism, skinny and tall. I say as long as your son is happy, healthy, acitve and eating RIGHT don't be too concerned.

Maya - posted on 10/17/2011

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My 4 year old daughter has always been in the 2nd percentile. If you look at the size of the women in my husband's family though, it's not surprising, they are all small. She eats a wide variety of healthy foods. Considering a "percentile" is just a comparison to the rest of the babies in your country, hey someone has to be in that percentile! And most kids today are overweight, and it's becoming a big health problem. So, relax, don't turn meal times into a war zone, cause then they will start having eating issues.No doctor has ever told me I need to try get her t put on weight. When she started school, I could see they were thinking something was wrong, but at the end of the week all the teachers commented to me that they can't believe she eats like a horse! I have started taking her swimming lately, and I think it's starting to build up her muscles nicely. Swimming's very good for getting someone to look more meaty, and less skinny, without plumping them up!

Brandy - posted on 10/17/2011

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Whole milk...all the time. My daughter was underweight and I started her on whole milk when she was 5 months old...she was looking very sickly, whole milk worked...now she's a happy toddler chunky dunk, but not over weight. :)

Vanessa - posted on 10/17/2011

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I too have a son that is quite small and I understand your concern when you see other kids their age looking so much bigger. My son is the same age and only 23 pounds - less than 5%. He's not a great eater but he eats and I try to feed him as nutritious food as possible and as much as possible. We have some very skinny men on my side of the family so I'm guessing it must come from them.

Chris - posted on 10/17/2011

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Remember, you are teaching him to eat healthy foods. If you give him things with a lot of fat or sugar, that is what he will eat later on. If the doctor's not concerned, I wouldn't worry. With my 19 yo dd, we didn't feed her as many fruits and veggies. And she never developed a taste for them, at least not like my other three children have. They were fed healthier food, and now my 15 yo dd complains because there is only junk food at parties.

Heidi - posted on 10/17/2011

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I would give it time. My DD is about the same age and has been the same weight since January. If you are really concerned, ask the Dr at the next well baby.

Suzanne - posted on 10/17/2011

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my daughter is 37 in and 28.6lbs don't stress they're an ok height and weight

Sharlene - posted on 10/17/2011

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Custard just normal custard or mix fruit with it that will gain weight believe me all the best

Penny - posted on 10/17/2011

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Unless the doctor is concerned, I don't think you should worry. 25 percent is good. My oldest was 8 weeks early and usually ran about 15 percent, as long as they are eating well and healthy those graphs are just guidelines. We all come in different shapes and sizes. :)

Whitney - posted on 10/17/2011

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My son is 2.5 and weighs 32lbs so id say your son will be ok, kids are very active anyway, hope this helped a little...after all i know alot of kids that are way over weight

Jan - posted on 10/17/2011

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My son and daughter were both tall and slim my son started gaining around age 8 and my daughter never did to this day she cannot gain weight. It's a mater of what is right for your child, if he has a healthy appetite and eats healthy the I would not worry unless your Pediatrician is concerned. Have you asked your Childs Dr what they think? Also look at your build and his fathers build that can tell a lot.

Julie - posted on 10/17/2011

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My sons almost the same age, he'll be 3 in Jan., & weighs only 25lbs. He was 6 weeks early & has always been small. As a baby he was diagnosed with failure to thrive. The 25% isnt bad tho. My sons only in the 10% and thats a miricle. I swear i wajted to have a party. He wasnt even in the 1% til he was 1 1/2. Try giving him pediasure. My son wouldnt eat food until almost 2 & was on high calorie formula til 1 1/2 & then he would just drink pedisure & it helped & helped even more when he started eating. My lil guys really short tho too, but i know its hard, but i wouldnt ompare him. He sounds in normal range. People always think my sons only 1 1/2

Sandra - posted on 10/17/2011

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Nutren Jr or Peptemen Jr work. My son loves the high calorie high fat greek yogurt. Its helped put some weight on him. Also toast with butter or sausage.

Laurie - posted on 10/11/2011

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My daughters pedi suggested we add carnation instant breakfast to her milk 2x a day. (breakfast and before bed). She was 18 lbs at 18 months. We go back next week to see if she gained anything

Laurie - posted on 10/11/2011

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My daughters pedi suggested we add carnation instant breakfast to her milk 2x a day. (breakfast and before bed). She was 18 lbs at 18 months. We go back next week to see if she gained anything

Joan - posted on 10/10/2011

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Some baby and adults are just thin am sure hes fine, if the doctors aren't worried then don't you worry just injoy your baby xx

Kari - posted on 10/10/2011

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My husband and I are both small to normal size, and both of our kids are as well. 25th percentile sounds fine to me! You have to remember that there is an obesity epidemic in this country and that many of the kids he is being compared to (that is what percentile means) are overweight. I would let him grow according to his own schedule and let him learn to respect his inclination to stop eating when he is full. Just make sure he has healthy options and let the rest take care of itself.

Charlotte - posted on 10/10/2011

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My grandson was also born 10 wks early..he is four years old. He also is very tall and extremely thin for his age. My daughter has to make sure he doesn't fall under a certain weight. She has tried everything to help him gain weight..but his metabolism just keeps running it off. He has a good appetite but does not gain weight. This could be a common thread in premies.

Bridget - posted on 10/10/2011

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My son wasn't early, but dropped in his weight % dramatically at about 6 mos. The dr's weren't worried and said it was fairly normal as long as he stayed on his "scale" which he has been doing. He is now 3 and only weighs about 30 lbs. He eats , but is super active so we don't worry, and neither do the dr's. I don't have any ideas for you, but as someone else on here said don't try to compare even though it's hard. If your dr's aren't worried about it then you shouldn't be either. Kids usually grow into their own as I've seen with a couple of niece's and nephew's. It can go either way. I missed seeing a chubby cute baby/toddler, but I love how my son is regardless. Good luck!

Tracy - posted on 10/10/2011

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My youngest just turned 2 August 10th and was born taken a week early at 9lbs 6oz (thank god for C-sections). My oldest will be 3 on October 12th and was born at 35 weeks and was 5lbs even. Both of my girls weigh 28 to 29 pounds and are fine. There is no need to worry or have him gain weight unless he has fell off his growth curve. Both of my girls are still averaging where they started out on the growth chart. As they get older they gain slower.

S - posted on 10/10/2011

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Hi! Don't worry, skinny kids are usually healthier than fat ones! if he eats regular meals, even if they are not huge meals, and balanced/varied foods, it's all he needs. Moms always seem to want their kids to be taller and bigger than the others, but really, it doesn't make them better! :)

Quyen - posted on 10/10/2011

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Hi Skyler,
Like everyone has said, if he is happy and eating well you don't have to worry. Don't forget that he's probably going through the 2 year growth spurt too. My daughter was in the 95th percentile band until I weaned her at 17 months. She is now 28 months and still weighs the same weight as at 17 months (she's now in the 25th percentile) :-S.....she's still eating well, and eating a balanced diet...she's growing taller and has a very active life...she's a little energizer bunny :-) So, don't worry too much :-)

Leah - posted on 10/10/2011

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I was like that with my little one, struggled to get him to gain weight for a little while. My little one don't keep still so it's prob coz he's burning off calories faster than i could get them in him so i was told by a HV to try adding more calories in his food e.g extra cheese, leave breadcrumbs on fish fingers and cooking his food in oil using frying pan.
If doc say's he's fine with how he's doing then even better.

Traci - posted on 10/09/2011

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My almost 4 year old son only weighs 29lbs. I have tried everything to get him to gain weight. I've added carnation instant breakfasts to his milk x2 a day. I add butter to all of his stuff. We eat 3 solid meals and 3 snacks a day. He gets whole milk about 50% of the time. He just has high metabolism.

Kristin - posted on 10/09/2011

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My oldest daughter was 6 1/2 weeks early and now that she is almost turning 9 I have noticed that she has caught up with her peers. She has steadily gained weight and grown and my pediatrician told me not to worry about how much weight and height just as long as she was consistently growing.

LuAnna - posted on 10/09/2011

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My son has always been skinny for his heigth. at 1 year old he was only 11 pounds. As long as your son is eating normal portions for a two year old and doesn't seem to be having problems with his activity level he will be fin. My son is now 12 and still very skinny. Some kids are just that way.

Denise - posted on 10/09/2011

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I wouldn't worry unless your dr is worried. My dd is only 18 lbs at 17 months (7 weeks early) and she's healthy and active. Dr would like a few lbs gained but he's not worried if she doesn't.

Pamela - posted on 10/09/2011

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Is there a particular reason why you want your son to look a particular way? I was a skinny kid the entire time I grew up. As a pregnant woman my arms and legs didn't increase in weight at all and when I gain weight now, they still don't. Each body is as uniquae as each personality. Accept the fact that your son will look like he looks. DO NOT compare him (or yourself for that matter) to others, not yourself or anyone else. That is a dangerous thing to do as it DENIES God's ability to create us differently.

Relax, as long as your child is healthy accept his looks as his own. You'll be a lot happy by accepting!

Megan - posted on 10/09/2011

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My son is about the same size and seems healthy. It might be that he is just really active. Mine seems to take in more calories when they are liquid. Try smoothies and milk shakes. My son likes them. Making their food more fun is good. Mickey pancakes, faces with raisins or dip on food and more variety at each meal can help. Good luck! Plus most American kids are overweight so he is still probably better off in the long run. Good luck!

Dahlia - posted on 10/09/2011

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My oldest son had problems gaining weight, I turned to a nutritionist that suggested keeping snacks available that were healthy and caloric. I kept bowls of cheerios and raisins, cheese and crackers, fruit and peanut butter cream cheese dip available all the time. Some people may disagree with this saying it teaches them to overeat, but he is now 30 and has never been overweight.

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First check with your Dr. Also, how is his overall health? Is he active? Running around? What's he eating? If he's eating a good variety of foods-including fruits and veggies, with protein. He's probably fine. It could be his body type.

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Let him have a good old milk shake with a scope of Ice cream, let him help make it as much as he can he will love it. What he doesn't finish put in the frez and let him have it in a dish later. Also let him eat when ever he wants to. I had a very skinny child and I stopped the 3 squares a day and let him graze like a cow in a short period of time with the right foods when he wanted them because he was hungry. He put weight on and things balanced themselves out in the end. I hope one of the tricks works for you. But I would not be to concerned he is still trying to catch up give him time all kids are different. Rest and have fun!!!

Sheila - posted on 10/08/2011

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well if its any help, please don't be worried, my daughter was 27 pounds at 3. 29 pounds at 4 and 29 pounds at five. no kidding just very tiny. she is now 5 and a half and weighs 36 pounds. She grew quick. I'm sure he will too. my niece was born 10 weeks early as well and was the same as my daughter. both just tiny and the second she hit 4 she got huge. She is now bigger and weighs more than my daughter but is healthy as a horse. Please don't concern yourself with small things. I promise, he will catch up. Keep him eating healthy, your doing a good job!!!

also, my daughter at the age of 3 was in the 10 percentile and at 4 was not even on the charts so please don't worry!!!

Kirsten - posted on 10/08/2011

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My son has always been in the 20-25% in weight. Recently we switched to a new pediatrician as my family doctor retired. Neither he or the new practice have any concerns as he has always been in that range. I would only be concerned if he has recently dropped his percentage or suddenly become thin. If he is eating healthy and well and his energy level is normal I wouldn't worry! My guy is over three now and has the same measurements. Healthy as an ox. :)

Tara - posted on 10/08/2011

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Skyler..I know how you feel. My daughter is 3 1/2 and 31 lbs and 37 inches tall. It has been a concern for a while. My first advice is not to worry. If your doctor is not to concerned I would not be. Your son is obviously growing as is my daughter. As long as the percentile hasn't changed dramatically, the doctor usually isn't concerned. My other recommendation would be Boost Kid Essentials. My daughter loves the vanilla (chocolate is very chocolatey). They are higher in calories and better tasting than the Pediasure, but they are also less expensive. You can go to their website and get coupons so you only pay about $2 for 4 pack.Good Luck!!

Miriam - posted on 10/08/2011

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you are overly concerned. your child is 21/2!..no need to give him a vitamin either unless you are feeding him complete junk all day, which I doubt you are. I had 3 children, the oldest of which is almost 20 and everyone always thought he was too skinny. they made jokes about how he looked like hadn't been fed..etc. He was healthy, happy, slept well, had tons of energy. This was enough for me. He also was also in the 25 percentile as were my other two children. Don't worry. if your child is unhealthy you will see signs of not functioning, lathargia, not sleeping, and wanting to eat all the wrong foods (sugars, salts) all the time. Ease up on yourself...kids are much more resilient than we credit them for.

Mindo - posted on 10/08/2011

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My daughter didnt put her weight on for 3 months. I went to GP and he suggested giving her multivitamin. I give her Pentavite once a day. She's now eating from only 3 spoons every meal to clean her plate (not always but mostly) now

Bethany - posted on 10/08/2011

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My daughter did not gain a pound between 2 and 3 and she grew 4 inches. The dr didn't say a word about it and now between 3 and 4 she has gained 8 lbs and still looks just as skinny to me. Don't worry so much about it. All kids are different and grow in different ways. As long as he is eating (encourage protein) he will be fine.

Fawn - posted on 10/08/2011

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I'm not sure how much my son weights but he is slender. I think it's because he moves around a lot. I would check with the doctor. Every child is different. If he's acting normally, he probably doesn't need the extra pounds.

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