toddlers and nursery

Laiqa - posted on 04/19/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son is finding it difficult to settle at nursery. He had the same problem with his previous childminder. He is fine when I am with him but as soon as I leave he starts crying not too tearful though. He cries but does not scream. He will get easily distracted and in a couple of minutes he will start again. I think he likes his new nursery and I want to do everything to ensure that he feels secure there so when I leave he is happy. When I am with him he plays but as soon as I leave he will go and sit in a corner. he does not show this behaviour at home at all. Is this normal and will he eventually settle. He did not settle at his previous childminder after 2 months being there although he was ill on two occasions which resulted in him not going in.

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Katherine - posted on 04/19/2012

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It subsides. It's just his age. I know it's heartbreaking because my daughter used to do it to. At first she loved it and then she hated it. You never know what to expect from them. What do the people at daycare say about how he does after you leave?

Stella - posted on 04/19/2012

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You've not said how long he's been at the nursery or how old he is etc?



When I took my 2 year old for his first visit, he absolutely screamed the place down. Then we had a few settle in sessions, but he was teary when I wasn't there, he must have had about 4 or 5 sessions before he actually started the nursery properly



He's only there a couple of mornings a week, but he absolutely loves it now after only about 3 weeks. The staff are trained to deal with kids crying, he needs to know that you are gonna go regardless of what he does. Now my boy runs to get in there in the morning and is excited when I say we're going to nursery.

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Stella - posted on 04/21/2012

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Oh that all sounds familiar, I wouldn't worry too much about it, and do listen to the nursery staff coz they are trained and know what kids are usually like



I had to even take my boy for extra settle in sessions as they were concerned he was still teary etc. But within a week or two of starting nursery, he's absolutely fine, and totally loves it.



The first morning he started, I came away in tears as he made me feel so guilty, but there's no looking back now

Laiqa - posted on 04/21/2012

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Thank you for your post Stella.

My son is 20 1/2 months. He's just started his settling in days. He had one hour on Wednesday, two hours on Thursday and three hours yesterday. On Thursday I left after about half an hour but he was teary on and off for the remaining hour and a half. Yesterday, i stayed with him for an hour and then I left. He saw me leaving and was crying. I picked him up after two hours. When I got to the nursery one of the teachers wanted to show me how nicely he was playing but he saw me when the door opened and started to cry, but this lasted for a couple of seconds only. Another teacher told me that he had just started to cry when he saw me and was fine throughout the two hours. he did not cry at all only when I left. They told me that he will settle in and he is just doing what any other child would do. I am hopeful that he will settle. He has another settling in session on Monday for four hours and possibly five hours on tuesday. I know that he likes the place a lot more than he liked his previous childminder's place and as you say he has to get used to the idea that I will have to go no matter what but that I will be back to pick him up. He is very persistent and won't give up but I am hoping that after a couple of weeks he will realise that the nursery is a good place, secure and that his mummy will be back. He feels insecure and needs to build up his confidence - I've been told by one of the teachers.

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