Tomorrow is my first day alone with my 2 week old daughter and almost 3 yr old son. I am very nervous. Any advice?

Hailey - posted on 03/17/2013 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I have been very fortunate to have had help for the first 2 weeks but now that I have to do it alone I am very nervous. How will I keep my son occupied while I nurse my daughter every 2 hours? Who will cook supper, etc. Any advice?

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Minna - posted on 03/19/2013

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I had the same age gap. I remember snuggling on the couch in my robe watching cartoons and reading . Lots of Playdough and blocks just stayed on the coffee table or floor for months. A few weeks of TV didn't corrupt my toddler. House was a mess and dinner didn't always get cooked. I took my shower before my husband left or it didn't happen. Relax and enjoy. Soon enough you'll be dealing with schedules and multiple car seats . Minna

Bonnie - posted on 03/20/2013

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I have been where you now are. I had two cesarean deliveries, so the second time around was super hard. After a week's assistance, it was down to me. My husband worked and went to school full time. I had ppd, and had to take meds for 6 months, to get through this time in my life. Major lack of sleep. I felt like a baby myself, but with adult responsibility. Eat, sleep, shower, along with trying to take care of a newborn, my health needs from surgery, and a toddler. Later finding out my toddler had autism, which was why he was difficult to entertain, etc. I prayed, used my crock pot often, and shopping was done only when my husband could accompany me. I showered when baby was put in his crib, and toddler showered with me, so I could watch him. Lots of snuggle time with tv, and music. Occasionally ran a load of laundry, but hardly ever folded and put away, using it non stop, and too tired and busy to keep up with all of the cleaning. So, I did what I could, and left the not so important until I could get around to that. Catching sleep whenever I could. Asked my husband to clean bathroom on the weekends. Trust in your intuition as a woman, and a mother. Exersaucers, swings, and strollers, are wonderful inventions, that helped me get things done and kids entertained during this time too. Make sure you have window, and front door locks, and any other babyproofing you need, to keep the toddler inside the home, and out of things you don't want them getting into. Call upon any friends and family you have in your area, to stop by and entertain your toddler, or help out with some of the chores, so you can catch some zzz's. For now, simple meals are just fine. Or your husband/friends, could offer to make, or bring in meals.

Margaret Cosgrove - posted on 03/19/2013

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Set up pillows on the couch, a stack of 2 or 3 right in the middle. Sit on either side of the pillows to nurse and use the pillows as an armrest and a resting spot for books to read to your son while you nurse.
This saved me when I had a newborn son and a 2 1/2 year d daughter.

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Tiffany - posted on 03/27/2013

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It seems overwhelming but you will survive. When my son was 2 1/2 yrs. old my twin girls were born! The first yr was crazy!

Hailey - posted on 03/20/2013

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Parenting alone is very challenging. I know, I have been there at the age of 17. When I started this conversation I was at the very worst of my baby blues and I see that now. I know now what all the moms mean by 'you just do it.' because thst is exactly how it is. My son has been great. He loves 'his baby' so much!
I sure hope you have friends and family nearby who can help you out when you need!

Kelly - posted on 03/20/2013

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I am about to embark on my 2nd pregnancy. 5 weeks pregnant now. I have a 2 and a half year old. Thing is. I'm very scared because I won't have a husband. it'll be me and me alone. i think I will cope. You have to

Nina - posted on 03/19/2013

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I hear you on worrying how everything will get done! I have a 6month old 9year old and 7year old. We run from one sport to the next and dance and everything else. You can do it and if something doesn't get done oh well eventually you will get to it. Enjoy your babies it flies by and don't stress the rest. Good luck : )

Hailey - posted on 03/19/2013

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I thought the purpose of this was for moms to offer words of encouragement and advice to other moms? I know I am very lucky. That doesn't change the fact that I was about to begin a new chapter in my life that I was unsure about. I am sorry that your husband works away. That must be extremely difficult! I wonder what your thoughts were when you had your second child? You must have had moments of being scared or nervous or wonder how it would all get done? I bet the last thing you wanted to hear was someone tell you their worse situation and imply you are sitting around doing nothing but worrying. Someone in your situation should have a lot of advice to offer other moms!

Hailey - posted on 03/19/2013

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Day one turned out to only be a half day. Both little ones were awake a lot of the night so my husband decided to stay home until noon. The half day was ok. So far today is going bery well. My son is being great! Very well behaved and patient. Makes me think we are going to do just fine. Thanks for the encouraging words!!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/18/2013

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Trust me you will manage. How did your first day go? I know how hard it is, and even scary at times being left all alone with a newborn and an older child. I would suggest making dinner for the week anytime that you can on the weekends, and freeze them. Also of course depend on your husband for help when he comes home. Good luck. You can do it momma!

Hailey - posted on 03/17/2013

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Thanks. I think I am trying to be "super mom". But you are so right! My family will be ok eating pb&j or soup for the next little bit. And if not then I guess my hubby will have to take on cooking responsibilities!

Liz - posted on 03/17/2013

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Does your son like to read? Color? Do puzzles? Have him do something quietly on his own while you nurse your daughter. It is good for him to be able to entertain himself sometimes. Also, it's ok if you have to have pb&j for dinner for now :) Otherwise, you could throw something in the crockpot or some other simple meal.

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