Jennifer - posted on 02/15/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
Here's the problem: Child up the street (we'll call him Bobby) constantly wants to play with my kids. In general, I'm fine with them playing together, but it's too much, too often. Unfortunately, the solution isn't as simple as telling Bobby "no".
Bobby has a severe developmental disorder, and will likely never live independently (to give you an idea of the severity). So when he comes over to ask to play he is accompanied by one of his parents. The times that I have said "no" his parents look at me like I am crazy. As if saying "no" is just horrible thing to do to this child. I usually articulate some sort of reason, but of course, he only hears "no". His parents simply don't pick up the hint that my kids don't want to play with him every minute of the day and that we have plans as a family both at home and out of the house that there isn't an open invitation to.
Here's the thing; Bobby goes to the same camp as my kids and the same after school program. They see each other PLENTY. When given the choice, my kids choose to play with other kids and not Bobby.
It's fine if Bobby plays over our house, but this child requires more supervision than my own children do and I kind of feel like a babysitter. He asks me for food (which he then doesn't eat), pouts, screams, is not fully potty trained and throws tantrums. I understand that this is part of his health condition and he doesn't mean it, etc. He doesn't like to play outside (without some serious persuasion) and has poor fine motor skills, so it's hard for him to get enjoyment or fully participate in the things my kids like to do. Occasionally they can find something that he can enjoy, but it's on a play level that my kids are well past. This was fine when my younger child was...well younger...but now not so much
Don't know what to do here..........?