Too Old?

Maria - posted on 10/01/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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Wondering at what age are your kids too old to shower with you? I have a son and a daughter.

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Jodi - posted on 10/02/2010

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I actually don't see the gender differences as a reason to stop showering together. If they ask questions, it is an ideal opportunity to discuss it with them. Neither of my children have any issues because they showered with the opposite sex parent until they were about 4 or 5. It's just another teaching opportunity. But as I said earlier, everyone has limits on what they feel comfortable with, and when it reaches those limits, that's when it should stop :)

Sherri - posted on 10/02/2010

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I don't care what others say. My kids see me naked all the time if they want to tell people what ever. My 4 1/2 yr old still showers with me. He has questions here and there we just answer them. End of discussion the body should never be a shameful thing.

Geralyn - posted on 10/02/2010

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My son was body aware before the age 2. He would comment on the differences between me and him or me and daddy. I disagree that I should have stopped bringing him in the shower. If he wants to shower with either of us, he does; if he doesn't, he doesn't. To me its that simple. Children are not scarred because they showered with dad or mom and they noticed differences. My son was aware that I breastfed and my husband didn't. I say do it as long as it works for your family - when it stops working, stop doing it...

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Mary1959 - posted on 04/17/2011

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my son is 8yr an daughter is 9yt
they 5 stop showering with me
now they shower togather

Christel - posted on 10/04/2010

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I HAVE 6 CHILDREN AND NEVER SHOWERED WITH ANY OF THEM THEY MAY WALK IN WHEN i AM IN THE SHOWER BUT THEY LEAVE WHEN THEY SEE i AM IN THE SHOWER I REALLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THIS AT ALL I THINK IT IS VERY WRONG AND CHILDREN START SEEING THE DIFFERENCES AROUND 2 YEARS OLD SO YES I THINK 3 AND UP IS WAY TOO OLD!

Tamar - posted on 10/04/2010

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for one it depends on how old they are also there is the whole side of if they are starting to get more curious about your body and wanting to ask questions my daughter and son both took showers with me and it was never an issue till they started asking those questions that i just was not ready to answer

Ashley - posted on 10/04/2010

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Well my son is 7 years old now which I think is way to old!!But I think I had him quit showering with me when he was like 3 or so.Basically when he started recognizing the differences in female and male body parts!

Brianna - posted on 10/02/2010

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I agree, it is what you are most comfortable with. My parents stop taking my brothers and I in the shower when we began noticing that they had different body parts. It was a different age for each of us, but probably somewhere in the 3-5 range. Just do what feel right and make you and your family comfortable.

Lyndsay - posted on 10/02/2010

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I have a 3 year old son and I don't shower with him. This is my personal preference of course, and I've only ever showered with him a handful of times in his whole life, but generally I think that if your kids are old enough to be curious about the differences between boys and girls then they shouldn't be showering with the opposite sex parent. Same-sex children-parent showers are okay for a bit longer, I think... my son still showers with his dad, because they have the same anatomy and I think it's a good way to teach him about himself and how to clean himself properly.

Julie - posted on 10/02/2010

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In our culture what lousie says is very true. Sadly. Some cultures dont automaticaly equate nudity with sexual nudity...ours however can twist even the most innocent baby photo into something sorrid

Louise - posted on 10/02/2010

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I think when your child is starting to be body aware you should stop showering with them as an innocent comment said at play group can set people talking. Sad but very true.

Sara - posted on 10/02/2010

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i don't think there is a certain age, as long as you and the child is still comfortable with it and if the girl showers with dad/ boy showers with mom, then i think you should stop when they start to realize there is something different between yours and their bodies, but if they are just there to have fun and dont realize the difference yet, i say keep going :)

Jodi - posted on 10/01/2010

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I have stopped showering with my 5 1/2 year old, mainly because the shower isn't big enough for both of us - it is extremely difficult to wash properly with her in there, LOL. She stopped showering with her daddy about 12 months ago because he started to feel uncomfortable with it, so we figured that was the time to stop :)

Personally, I don't think there is a limit on it, it is about what everyone is comfortable with.

Maria - posted on 10/01/2010

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My son is 4.5 and he still love to shower every time I try to get some time to myself (lol). I sometimes feel like he is but so easy to have everyone pile in with me.

Lise - posted on 10/01/2010

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Depends on your comfort level, I think. And theirs. I showered with my mom until I was 4 or 5, I think.

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