Robin - posted on 03/18/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hello everyone, my son is 14 he'll be 15 in April. he has a girlfriend she is 13. the school they go to ranges from 6th - 12th. Now the 6-8th grade has lunch break first and high school second. My son has been coming home in bad moods gets in the car real upset sometimes. on the norm we talk and tell each other about our day. Well he finally broke it down to me after weeks of patiently mending my son's wounds everyday while unaware of what is the reason? So his girlfriend had guy friends he don't like and my son has this friend that is a girl but my son is friends with both her and her boyfriend. I am sure he probably has more girls as friends but this one I guess she really don't like. Well she does exactly what he asks her not to, like not wearing this other dude hat. well she's always got it on when he meets up with her. Anyway today he's not angry but hurt and kind of frustrated and I have learned the more I am concerned but don't pry the sooner he reveals his pain. I guess one of his guy friends took a picture of his girlfriend sitting out front of the school with this boy and her legs propped over this guys. I was quiet then I finally said hey if your not going to say anything I am either calling her mom or I am going over there. he says no I'm going to handle it. he never tells me what's up so I worry and worry. I need someone to help me explain to him that besides being his mom I am also a girl. I have lived through the 70's 80's and 90's. Her life is similar to mine I am very in tune with my feelings hind sight has brought me to know why I did things I did in the past. and even taught myself to learn why I did them. I know exactly what she is doing. there are only 2 reasons. Either he needs to trust her and don't allow it to get to him because she needs to have a life as a teenage girl and if he don't allow her freedom he will regret wasting High school in a relationship that goes nowhere. Or she is a player and he needs to move on before he catches something and if not a disease something else he will miss out on having fun and enjoying his school days. he needs to realize he will live if he moves on but he won't even allow me to speak that way. He feels responsible for her for some reason. I think that is sweet but now she is taking kind for weak. she has broke up with him twice now. I cannot ignore this. he says he is fine but still won't move on. should I take his phone for a week? follow him around school for a day or two? order him to wise up? go talk to her mom and dad? HELP..