Touching Themselves

Tracy - posted on 05/26/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My 7 yr old son is obsessed with "touching" himself and I have no idea what to do to get him to stop. My husband says it isn't a big deal, all males do it. My sons teacher is making a VERY big deal out of it and his pediatrician says tell him to go to his room this is to be done in private, but I can't exactly do this while he is in school. We have sat him down and explained that it was inapproriate behavior while at school. Not to mention that my son has anxiety issues which is what they believe this is stemmed from. I just have no idea what to do - it's kind of embarrasing and I don't want kids to pick up on it and make fun of him, since kids can be so cruel. Any suggestions?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/26/2011

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I would not recommend him masturbating in a public bathroom either. HELLO! What if he is in a public bathroom, not at school and a grown man hears him masturbating....yeah,,...perfect for pedephiles. Just keep working with him on privacy, and how we can love our bodies at home,in our own bedrooms or in our own bathrooms. Your husband may need to really sit down with him and discuss what his body is going through...man to man.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/26/2011

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Oh for crying out loud Nichole, I hope you are not suggesting to Tracy to do what your mom did to you. That is aweful, and how horrible that would make him feel.

It is totally natural to self explore. I will encourage that, but trying to impose "time and place" is the tricky part. He can get in a lot of trouble if another kids sees him. Now a days, stuff like this is serious. Just keep talking to him about privacy. Please don't make him ashamed of enjoying his body. That can have severe repercussions.

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Mary - posted on 05/26/2011

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Sounds like a "hot" button issue. Your son's anxiety is where I would start. Right now with his teacher on high alert for this behavior and your expressed concern to him, your son might be under stress and using touching to relieve that. You may want to talk to a child development specialist or child psychiatrist to find an answer for how to handle this situation. You especially want to get your son out of the cycle of perceiving himself as doing "bad" behavior. He may have another entirely different issue that is behind this. Maybe a physical irritation in that area of his body, a urine tract infection or such. I'd check out the physical side first and if there isn't a problem there, I would check out social skills or personal skills. I'd let the teacher know that you are working on the issue and tell her that you are going through a diagnostic process to help your son. What you need from her is that she work out a code with your son to alert him to stop doing this in public with a non-verbal cue. Could be a tap on the arm or a pat on the back. If they could work that out that would lower the stress level for both of them.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 05/26/2011

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Try telling him if he HAS to, go to the boys bathroom and do it. At least it's not on the play ground or somewhere he can get run into?



My mom was very strict and so I always knew they were watching.... that, and the 'God sees all you do' really got to me as a kid and made me pause to look at the sky and wonder who was staring at me when I wanted to do something I wasn't supposed to. It was creepy and I ended up not doing things because I didn't want someone to be watching me do them.



I don't believe in God, but if you do, or it helps? Lol



My parents wanted me to have morals so they were always teaching me about right and wrong. I guess I would start there and try to talk about rules and religion or something.. since I'm not religous, I would talk about social structure, laws, and humanity. Wish me luck, no idea how that will go over yet haha

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