Sharon - posted on 10/14/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )
It is so interesting to read all previous posts, and I am hoping to hear some feedback from moms / dads who have lived through what I have had to do.
I have struggled with his ODD / ADHD / TLE behaviours over the last 15 years. He has been in multiple schools, seen therapist, been medicated (until his father told him he must not let me drug him.
I made a mistake and always covered / lied for him. Made excuses for him, never let him suffer his consequences of his actions - because I knew he had psych issues.
His sisters lived a dreadful time been physically attacked and verbally abused, stolen from.
My older daughter is independent and lives a happy life. My youngest (19) still lives with me and works.
Their father went to prison for fraud. We went through some tough times, but survived. ( I divorced him years ago).
Trouble started when we moved into a new home and somehow his girlfriend ended up living with us. My son had a good job - went on holidays it was perfect.
I DON'T KNOW what went wrong ........
But they ended up using drugs - and everything went downhill. They were aggressive to other people, and luckily moved out.
They messed that up and landed up squatting in my garage - and getting arrested again - total of 3 cop visits raiding my home - put my job in danger as well.
Time in prison and court - R10 000 for rehab ------- nothing changed - got worse.
Complete stress and verbal and emotional abuse
I eventually reached rock bottom and moved house - but warned him he had to find a place to stay.
Dont think he believed me.
I have moved - and my son is on the street - I feel so depressed and empty ...... but know I have to get him to take responsibility for his actions and life.
But as a mom - this is rock bottom - I pray for his recovery and return home one day if he ever forgives me.