Carrie - posted on 07/10/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )
I had an issue arise with a neighbor last night and would like some advice on how to handle future (as I'm sure there will be) incidents. I live in a small town that has a curfew and noise ordinance time of 10:00 pm. I have lived here 8 years and my neighbor 3 years. Up until about six months ago he was a great neighbor. Never very loud polite but kept to himself a working dad-of-two type. About six months ago he got a new girlfriend and ever since then it is loud parties 3-5 times a week that last until anywhere between 12am-3am. He was nice enough to install a fire pit right outside my master bathroom window so I can no longer open and use that window in the evenings to catch a breeze unless I want my bedroom to smell like a campfire.
This has been going on for about six months. My husband and I are agitated by the situation but didn't want to cause waves knowing that a situation can deteriorate rapidly when you get others involved. We always said as long as the noise isn't too loud and as long as they don't wake up our kids we'll let it slide. Last night was another wonderful extremely loud party. At about 10:30 my oldest son woke up and came out to the living room. "Mom, I got woken up by the neighbors kids being loud." My husband went to the kitchen window and and said can you please keep the noise down you just woke up my son and some of us need to go to work tomorrow morning. (My husband gets up a 5 to go to work). It was the neighbors 2 kids the girlfriends one kid and I'm assuming friends other 3 kids. They went in the house and not 10 minutes later my neighbor comes knocking on my door. I was a little baffled by this. After all we hadn't been rude to his kids we had simply asked them to keep the noise down. He was a raving lunatic. Every other word out of his mouth was profanity. He was actually trying to get my husband to come out and fight him...and his two buddies he brought over with him. By this point my husband was holding a baseball bat which my son who plays the game had so kindly left by the front door. At one point my neighbor even attempted to open my screen door which we had (thankfully) locked for the evening. I tried to calmly explain...and yes I was calm because I was very baffled by his behavior...That the children had been very loud and we just asked them to quiet down some to which he replied Shut the F*** up! while he continued to scream profanities at me. His last comment was If you ever talk to my kids like that again I'll bring my chainsaw and my truck over here and I'll get through your locked front door. Please insert the F word every other word and imagine someone SCREAMING this at you at close to 11:00 at night. When he got back over to his house he said you thought we were loud before you just wait...again inserting colorful language. About a 1/2 hour later so around 11:30 he drags everyone out on the front yard and the noise level begins to ratchet up. Well at this point I just wanted to calm down my oldest son because he was very scared that the neighbor was going to come back with his chainsaw. My youngest son who is 8 slept through the whole thing. So we watched a mellow movie which calmed my son down and got him back in bed and then at 2:00 my neighbor started setting off fireworks. I don't know if he was aiming them at my house or what but they were LOUD! again my oldest woke up. I'm sure there are going to be more incidents with this man this was hardly the first and he seems to have a screaming fight with his girfriend once a week. The names he calls her could peel paint off the walls and at least one kid is there for most of these fights. I just cant believe that he stood on my front porch with his buddies egging him on screaming profanities at me for such a minor incident I was threatened bullied and intimidated in the span of about three minutes. My adrenaline was going so hard after that that I didn't sleep at all...instead I cleaned the house. How should I handle future conflicts with this neighbor of which I'm sure there will be a few? I'd hate to get the cops involved but I won't go near this man ever again. I'd like to give him the benefit of the doubt and think he was drunk but that still doesn't excuse his behavior.