Nancy - posted on 06/30/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )
Root-Cause: Mother-in-law, who has major insecurity issues about beauty, cooking, housekeeping, and bond between a husband and wife. Played me so nice all this time with her rumors about my cooking, work, and now my kids. Finally, all these spread gossip coming back to us and family seems to believe it. She told everyone I don't pick her calls anymore but no-one understands that after finding out we're pregnant she called me everyday to ask about if I have started bleeding and then she would give me graphic details on how her friend miscarried several times, she knew I was shy, nervous, and too naive to put her straight, then within couple of weeks I started bleeding but fortunately it stopped, she said I got scared and believe took expensive item that has been missing when I was on bed rest, wth! She made calls to undermine and bullied me to have a babygirl, always throwing indirect insults on me, finding out our plans then manipulating it by overriding with fake invitations to parties/weddings. She told everyone i can't cook and when people try my food they love it so she had skipped my dinner invites and thrown away my giveaway food and tells people that I don't invite them or make anything for them. She told everyone that she will raise my baby as I will be at work and she tells me that people were bothering her by asking so she told others at her will that I will go back to work. Since after post-pregnancy, I had no belly, she stares at me a lot, and told me I look so weak. And after everyone complemented me over and over how beautiful I looked at every party, then she's has told everyone that I am weak. She also finds something is wrong with our kid as he does not call her grandma on his own, every encounter she repeats her name grandma grandma grandma grandma in his ears while he plays, they never send birthday presents to kids instead they just want to be invited to they can get involve in our social network. Now, they are very concerned about our well-being apparently and did not like when my husband confronted them to stop the gossip and rumors. Now, they are praising everyone openly but us! Need strategies to either beat her at her own game or get her to stop. We want to see them often and they don't seem to respect us and our authority over our kids at all. I like spending time with them despite her games and now getting frustrated to come to a point where I treat them as nobody. DH is not so good at showing united front.