Trouble with preachers wife.

Amber - posted on 10/29/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




OK ladies, I want to give my son a cup now and then so he can learn to drink from it. He is about to be six months. But the preachers wife sees it and say she is gonna blister me if she sees him with another sippy cup! She said children need bottles till they are 12 months! The cup I got said 4m +. I don't think it's right her trying to tell me how to take care of or raise my child so long as I'm doing my job as a parent. This is not her decision its mine! What do y'all think


Dove - posted on 10/29/2015




Introducing a sippy cup (w/ breast milk or formula under 6 months... and SMALL amounts of water on occasion after 6 months) is FINE. Maybe she thinks that you are ONLY giving the cup and that your baby will not get enough milk w/out a bottle? If that's the case I could understand her concern because they aren't very good at cups for a while and DO need their other milk source too, but learning to use a cup is a long process and starting it early is GOOD.

What does she mean she's going to 'blister' you? Is she threatening you? That would be a church I would never return to if she's threatening you. Otherwise... a 'thanks for your concern, but this is my child to raise... not yours'.

Raye - posted on 10/29/2015




It's not her place. She may mean well, and may have concerns about the development of the mouth while using a cup (causing overbite?). But once she has expressed her concern, it's up to you to take the advice or not. You should tell her that you respect her opinion, have given it thought, but have chosen to continue with the cup. And you would appreciate her respecting your right to parent your child how you see fit.


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Jodi - posted on 10/29/2015




How very "Christian" of her to suggest she will "blister" you......and I would probably say that to her too. But that's me.

Sarah - posted on 10/29/2015




Why does the pastor's wife even care? Do you offer the cup in church and it drips on the carpet or pews? If so, I would say no cup at church. Otherwise refer her to the American Association of Pediatrics. The advice they give is:
"Breast milk and formula are the best choices for your baby. When it’s time for him to start using a cup (around 6 to 9 months), give him breast milk, formula, or water."

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