troubled world

Sandra - posted on 09/30/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have an uncontrollable teenage boy. So I decided to take action and now I regret it. I tried to out source a little help on what I should do or what my next step should be to correct the issue he is having from failing grades to bringing a knife to school to even pulling a knife on his step father… well I contacted juvenile services who directed me to social services they say they should help with some programs for him like therapy big brother program…. so I did I told them the issue I was having with him and instead of referring me to help they basically opened an investigation on me and my family. Now dont get me wrong I have nothing to hide but come on. Talk about crazy…so instead of giving me a list of resources to help. They just caused more issues in my already crazy life..omg no wonder why parent have a hard time with there teens. From now on ill figure it out on my own…..”
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Ev - posted on 10/02/2014

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All I can do is encourage you to stick to your guns so to speak and hold the fort. You need to do what you always did. If going to his dad's is an option though dad is not in the picture too much, maybe he should go. He might think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence and when he goes and stays there for a certain amount of time, he might find its not so hunky dory(great).

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Sandra - posted on 10/01/2014

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Issues have always been addressed, In the past but its just recently that in his own mind he truley believes he is grown and doesnt have to follow through with his punishments.and when all else fails he pulls the I want to go live with dad card. And in reality if thats what he truley wanted I would cope with that. But its only when there are consequences to his actions, thats what he wants to do. And his father who really has little to no contact with him by his choose.decided thats a great time to make matters worse buy telling him things like (well you could always move here buddy). or( when I was a kid I did worse things to bring a knife to school, your still a juvenile at 15 so you'll get a slap on the wrist.. )And im not going to allow our son to try and play the role of a parent thats my job...he is in counseling so I belive that will help...(with fingers crossed). At this point I know that there is an issue rather its deeply rooted or not but as a parent I tryed to reach out for help and that as brought me from one dead end to another and in most cases has caused more harm than good. Now thats just my opinion. I wont give up because I love my son.

Ev - posted on 10/01/2014

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Did you ever give him consequences in the past for things that went against the rules of the house? Did you ever discuss things with him about why you did not want him doing those things when he got older? Did you have rules in the home and enforce them all the way through? Did you give in to every whim he had growing up? You see raising kids starts when they are young. If you do not train them up to behave as they should by adulthood from young ages, then you are in trouble. I would say that having a knife at school and pulling it on his step dad is a deep seated problem somewhere that needs to be addressed. His failing grades are from not understanding what is expected for that class, lazy and does not do the work, or what? How come you let it go this long. If he was having issues at school, whey were they not addressed before now.

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