Trucker wife need to know how not to take it pe

Sara - posted on 11/26/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I feel alone and it's hard for me to deal

With his coming and leaveing it feels

Personal..I would like to make friends I that can relate .

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Jessica - posted on 11/26/2012

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Oh honey... I'm sure there's a whole knot of us that care! In just the hour since I found this site, I've seen so much support and groups for niches I didn't even think were out there. Plenty of trucker wives, too. Do a search in COMMUNITIES and there are several that might fit your situation perfectly. :)



BTW, I just created 'Guiltily Angry Mates Anonymous' in the form of "Mamas With Second Shift Papas"... which you are very much welcome to visit if you'd like. Having all the feelings of being abandoned is hard not to take out on one who's only leaving to be a good man. I hope your heart finds some hugs here soon.

Sara - posted on 11/26/2012

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Thank you so much your response it brought tears to my eyes that someone responded and cares.

Jessica - posted on 11/26/2012

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My mate is an out-of-town 2nd shifter, which basically puts the boys and I on a different time zone from him. Most weeks we see each other only in passing, it seems. One week I counted 8 hours we all were together. I know it's not the same precise situation, but I'm dealing with trying not to take it personally too.



Our youngest is 4 months old, and papa bear's gotten into the habit of trying not to wake us by just sleeping on the couch when he gets home. While in theory this should be helpful, it just makes it seem like I'm alone even when he's home. I get up with the boys, we all smooch him to wake him up so he can go sleep upstairs. A few hours later he gets up and pretty much has to get ready to go after a short while. It's awful. Feels like I'm raising our boys alone.



So, well it was comforting to read your post and think that there are others who are trying to cope with something like this false-abandoned feeling too. Honestly, it's a difficult thing to not be angry or hurt when who you're supposed to be sharing your life with... just isn't in your life. And top that with some guilt about those emotions because all they're out doing is working their butts off? Yep... I stinkin' hate it.



Feels like there should be a group somewhere just for this sort of thing. Guiltily Angry Mates Anonymous. :)

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