truly blessed. amazingly stressed.

Patty Mae - posted on 08/08/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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It's 11pm & I really should be sleeping seeing as I have to be back @ work @ 6:45am for my third 12-hour shift in a row.... but I cannot sleep because my mind is racing & all I cant think about is a the million & one things I have on my list of things to do.

I was gOOgLing around online & ran into this site so I joined & here I am venting. I wonder if this is how any of ya'll came across this! lol
I am so amazingly blessed. Seriously.

I have an amazing one-year-old who is a complete handful, but nevertheless, he is my little angel!

We live with my boyfriend who is also my son's father. We just moved in together right before our son was born & right before that, we both just graduated college. We have now both started our new careers & our new lives... in a new city.... with our new baby! It's been a year since this all began, but it's all STILL sinking in!

We live in the same town as my parents... who are divorced, but are both completely involved with helping out with babysitting & taking care of our little boy when we work. In fact, I was a stay @ home mom for 4 months. Since I started working, we have both worked full-time & have been fortunate enough to not have to pay for child care. Between all the grandparents, aunties, & godparents who chip in to help, we have been truly blessed.
YET.... I still have things to complain about. WHAT?! Imagine that! To some, it can't get better! I know there are single moms & other families out there who are not as fortunate..... & I truly admire you all. Seriously.... because I honestly have NO IDEA what I would do without my parents. I'm pretty sure I would have to quit my job, though haha because PAYING for childcare wouldn't even be worth it!

Anyways, I'm still stressed out because there is absolutely NOT ENOUGH HOURS IN THE DAY! It drives me absolutely INSANE that I can never catch up with my never-ending to-do list! How on EARTH do people have multiple children while working full-time also? I feel like I'm not there enough for my son when I'm at work, but when I'm home I have to to do house chores & errands... I just can't figure out the balance. Please HELP! I'm completely ALWAYS stressed out to the point where I am miserable all the time. I'm in a funk & I can't get out of it. If any of you have any advice for a new working mommy who is in a committed relationship with her baby daddy & is in the verge of a breakdown please help! I would really appreciate it! Thanks! (o:

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Determined - posted on 08/08/2012

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You are blessed and keep reminding yourself that when you get stressed out. Keep telling yourself "life could be worse" and is will help you with not stressing so much. I don't work but I am a full time student so to me that is my job. I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old. I know what you mean about not having enough hours in the day between the house work and studying sometimes I'm not falling into bed until 2 am just to get up at 6 with the kids. My husband works and is in the navy as well so he deploys every other year...that really sucks because I don't realize how much he actually helps me until he is gone.
Sometimes you have to take time for yourself go grocery shopping BY YOURSELF and on the way there grab a coffee from starbucks and just sit there and enjoy it in silence. I do this sometimes, my husband doesn't know about it lol but I need some me time. Go lock yourself in the bathroom take a hot bath and cry about everything and about nothing. Sometimes its amazing how a good cry can make you feel like a new person lol. You'll figure momma...we mommy's always do! Good luck and just hang in there.

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Patty Mae - posted on 08/08/2012

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Thank-you, Amber. This means so much I'm literally on the verge of tears after reading your comment because I realized this is the first time I really even really talked about it to someone that understands.
I just feel selfish "complaining" to most people.
I was pregnant during my last year of school. A number of my classmates had children & families as well & I don't know how they did it with the studying & mommy-ing! You are amazing! And, although completely respectable, I'm sorry your husband is away with Navy stuff. I hope he comes home soon & safe! And you have two kids?! I always wanted 3-4 kids, but now I can't imagine even having two! Anyways, just wanted to say THANKS & good luck with school! You can do it & it will all be worth it!!!

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