Trust Issues

Marife - posted on 03/22/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Hello Mommies, it's not mommy related but I really do need an advice.. please no bashing... So me and my husband has been married for two years, meet online, He visited me in my country and decided to come to his country and get married. First year was very tough because i found out things that i didn't know (like He is still involved with ex-wife and her family and there's a lot that I choose not to mention)anyways, It's very hard for me to trust him again , it's like I feel paranoid sometimes. I feel like I want to know whatever He is doing in his computer and keeps on checking his phone... Do you think I'm crazy? I can't just get over it. It's very hard to trust again after what everything happend. Does anyone has trust issues here and how did you cope with it?



I need advise so bad. Thank You a lot.

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Jenni - posted on 03/23/2012

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You can ask whatever you want on here! It doesn't just have to be mommy-related. Feel free to discuss whatever is on your mind. :)



I would highly recommend counseling. It would be optimal if he is willing to go to couple's counseling with you. I think if he's broken your trust, he owes you that much. Of course, one on one sessions are always an option as well and better than nothing.



And no, if he's done something to rattle your trust then you're not crazy. You've made a huge leap of faith leaving your country to start a life with him. I think he should be willing to put in effort into building your relationship together and working past this with you. I hope the two of you can sort things out and I do think counseling will help guide you in the right direction. Best of luck!

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