trying to change my sons name because he is still married and not payi

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Hello, I want to change my infants middle and last name. his father does not pay child support, has been served with papers but has not complied and refuses to supply the basic needs for the baby. he is also still married which I DID NOT know about when I met him because he lied and told he was divorced. it was 5 months into my pregnancy that I found out the truth and hes still married to her. do I have a legal leg to stand on with those factors? please help.

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Thanks for the advice mama. That's why I'm pursuing every avenue possible. To make it better for the baby.

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Nothing suddenly changed. I've felt this way since I found out. I had my son wanted to make it work and wanted to believe that a divorce would change my feelings towards him. Nothing did. Someone who will go out of their way to cover such a tremendous lie and not take care of his child doesn't deserve a namesake. That's the big deal.

Suzanne - posted on 09/07/2015

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Ok about child support. .. is your state like California ?
If man is married the wife can be ordered to pay child support. ..
And even if he dont work and the wife do you get from her ...
Is he actually not working for if you find out he is you can have a judge order they take child support out his check before giving to him

About the name I do understand that you would like to change it go to your local family courts find out what you need to do... I will tell you though some states like California the scbool systems only honor the first name on birth certificate... just went thru that with oldest son he changed names in highschool and was upset he could not use at school for his classes. ..

I would change name if that is what you feel is best...
It makes sense not like he is a girl and will change names when if ever get married. ..

About his and your situation that is Not Important anymore what is important is your Baby ....

Jodi - posted on 09/07/2015

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Well, let's face it - you found out the truth when you were still 5 months pregnant and you still gave the baby his name, so.....what has suddenly changed now that you want to change it back?

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I know the laws about child support that is not the major issue at hand the name change is. As for you not "understanding" how I could have a child with a man I knew so little about? Because he lied. I had no reason not to believe he wasn't divorced as he hid it very well. We were together 2 years before my son was born. Living together as well while he was separated. You should inquire, and get your facts together before you comment on something that in your words is irrelevant.

Jodi - posted on 09/07/2015

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You only get automatic custody until paternity has been established. And in order to file for and succeed in applying for child support, you have to establish paternity.....so you will need to make sure you have orders established for parental responsibility too....

Also, just be aware that serving him with papers and having court ordered child support are two different things. Until the court actually orders that he pay, he doesn't have to pay. I'm assuming the papers he was served were for a hearing?

I still don't understand how you could have a baby to a man you clearly know so little about, but I guess that's irrelevant now that the baby is already here.

Either way, changing your child's name is really not going to change any of the father's rights.

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well as far as the baby having the right to know his father that's a moot point because his father doesn't come around. as far as rights for his father hes unfit. he knows it and I know it. hopefully a judge will see it that way as well. thanks for the advice.

Dove - posted on 09/07/2015

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Then talk to a lawyer. He is still the baby's father and he can still get rights if he chooses to pursue them. Your son has a right to know his father.

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neither. in Fl the mother automatically gets custody unless ruled otherwise. no visitation either. I don't trust him with the safety of the baby because he likes to drink.

Dove - posted on 09/07/2015

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The fact that he is married to another woman should have no bearing on the fact that he is your baby's biological father.

Dove - posted on 09/07/2015

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Talk to a lawyer. Changing a name can be expensive and, generally, requires both parents to consent. You will need to go to court and petition a judge for the change if the father does not agree. Do you have custody and visitation orders established yet?

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