Trying to conceive a boy

Ellissa - posted on 03/06/2015 ( 21 moms have responded )

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We are trying to conceive a boy for our second child. I am using ovulation sticks and today it said high fertility I should ovulate on Sunday. Today is Friday. Should we start trying today or wait until tomorrow when it is peak time. We only tried once last month on the day I thought I was ovulating and didn't get pregnant. Thank you :)

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Sarah - posted on 03/06/2015

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Here is my belief/opinion. I do know the desire to have a certain gender, and I am a planner (big time). BUT my opinion/belief is that God picks the gender of each child and when you are suppose to get each child. I am to be grateful for what God gives me and to not try to play God. That goes for boy/girl or healthy/special needs. Each pregnancy I always hope for a certain gender and for the baby to be healthy, but I also know that God is in control (even though I still like to think I am at times) and He will give me the perfect child for me at that particular time whatever gender or health status that is. If you don't want to find out what gender it is until baby is born then don't find out......no matter if it is second or third or first. You never know you may never get the chance to have a third, so don't plan what you will do or not do for the third until that time comes. Right now focus on the second. I will soon have our fourth. With each pregnancy we have not found out until baby is born. I enjoy the surprise (amazingly even though I am a BIG planner). With each pregnancy I have debated finding out before hand as it is hard to wait and I am always hoping for a certain gender. But with each pregnancy I am blessed for what I have and figure the surprise is more fun. My family (hubby and kids along with grandparents and aunts) have all had fun guessing and having what they hope it will be. To me that is what makes the end result fun. We get to see who guessed right and who guessed wrong.

Sarah - posted on 03/06/2015

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If you want a boy then don't conceive as you have a 50/50 chance no matter what trick or trade you do. Best thing would be to adopt a boy. Then you know it is a boy. If you want to conceive then be thankful for what you get and be glad you are able to as many just want to and can't.

Chana - posted on 03/06/2015

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If you want a second child that is wonderful but I would be more concerned that he or she is healthy. We were hoping that our second would be a boy simply because it would have been nice to have a girl and a boy and regardless of what they say I think every man wants a son. That being said we couldn't love our second little girl anymore than we do.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/06/2015

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A boy is conceived when the male sperm carries the correct chromosomes for a male child.

Not by differences in fertility, ovulation, or position.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/12/2015

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The evidence you are over looking is the end product...the sex of the baby. You can deny that all you want, but to the person who is trying to conceive a certain sex, that is proof enough that it works. And you CAN increase the chances of a certain sex. If you had tried it, and ended up with the results you wanted, you would be singing a different tune.

Jodi - posted on 03/06/2015

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I never said there is any harm trying. Just that there wasn't any evidence that it works. But whatever. I wasn't trying to argue, just pointing out that there isn't any evidence that any method works. The OP can take both of those views as she will. The chances are still 50/50.

Sarah - posted on 03/06/2015

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Like I said, while you can't have science behind you...it won't hurt trying, right?
I agree with Sarah H. You are going to get what the good Lord wants you to get: no baby, girl baby, boy baby or bay from another set of parents.
Have fun, try for a few months to follow the methods that are available, and let us know what happens.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/06/2015

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There is no science to prove it doesn't work either. The fact is, the reason it may not work in some instances is because compliance failure. Especially for something like this. No controlled environment = experimental failure on many occasions if their not following proper guidelines/instructions/advice.

Nothing in life is 100% either way. I just feel that if something like this based on science facts, and logic could give someone an opportunity to try for a certain gender.....I am all for it. Hell, gotta have fun.....or should have fun trying especially with that added excitement.

Jodi - posted on 03/06/2015

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Maybe. Maybe not. I am just saying there is no scientific study that has been done to say one or the other and that for every story where it worked, there is likely to be another story where it didn't. I understand there is logic and science behind it, but there is no science that demonstrates it actually works. Science suggest that by theory it SHOULD work, but it has not really been tested scientifically. By all means, try it, but understand that there are no guarantees, and there IS the possibility it is still a 50/50. That's all I was suggesting.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/06/2015

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Well, maybe I increased the chances by following these methods. Who is to say for sure it did not work???? I followed the recommendations, and ended up with a girl....the end result is what we were trying for.

There is science behind it if you read through it, along with basic logic. There is no reason not to try it.

Jodi - posted on 03/06/2015

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Yeah, but you had a 50/50 chance of getting what you got anyway.

None of the methods have every been scientifically tested, so there is really no method you can rely on. By all means try them out, but don't be disappointed if they don't work. For every story that says it worked for them, there is another story where it didn't. And that makes sense.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/06/2015

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Actually, I fully disagree with most of the responses. Look up the Shettles method. It actually gives great insight to raising your chances of one gender vs the other. We intentionally tried for a girl with the second time, and that is what we got. I did not go as far as the specific food suggested to acquire the most compatible PH, but I certainly went along with the timing, positioning, and a lot of other suggestions. Look it up. It not is 100% guaranteed (but what is), but the information made sense to me. Especially when it came to sperm speed with boys, etc.

Trisha - posted on 03/06/2015

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I heard this on a documentary about the baby making, lol. I don't remember of the name of it, but here is some other information I found online.

Some info for you:

"The timing of intercourse does seem to have an effect. Sperm carrying Y chromosomes apparently swim faster but do not survive as long as their X-carrying counterparts. So if a couple has intercourse right at the time of ovulation, the faster-swimming male sperm have an advantage, and a male baby is slightly more likely — but only very slightly. And, if the timing is a day or two earlier, more of the male sperm die out, and a female baby is a bit more likely."

http://www.harvardhealthcontent.com/Wome...,COL082001

Sarah - posted on 03/06/2015

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I have yet to see a valid study on any of the methods. I guess it isn't going to hurt trying, right? There is a book of "old wives tales" to tell the gender once you are already pregnant and that was a lot of fun to do with my friends and hubby. I can't recall the title, but it has lots of "tests": you ask the mama to be to hold out her hands, is she palms up she's carrying a girl, if she holds palms down it's a boy. It was not accurate by any means, but it was fun. Good Luck!

Ellissa - posted on 03/06/2015

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We will definitely be happy either way. We would just love to have a son second so the third we could not find out until they are born. We already have a name picked out if we have another girl. We just figured if there's any swaying either way why not try. I wasn't looking for any comments on adopt if you want one I simply wanted to hear others story's on when they conceived if the old tales can be true or not...

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/06/2015

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Ok, Sarah Hofland gets the gold star for the best answer!

Sarah - posted on 03/06/2015

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There are dozens of old wives tales on how to conceive a gender specific baby. Short of doing IVF and pre-implantation genetic testing....you get what you get.

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