Nicole - posted on 06/10/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )
I'm 24 years old, married, and have 2 kids of my own (4 and 8 months). I've had a rocky relationship, with the man I've called my father my entire life, ever since high school. Recently he felt the need to blow up and say horrible things to me; including that he's not my biological father. I didn't think anything of it, since he's said plenty of ridiculous things to me.
The next day I was at my mom's house, and decided to tell her this ridiculous "news". Her reaction wasn't anything I ever expected, and I've been having a tough time processing what she told me:
Apparently, some time during college (my parents were high school sweethearts until their divorce when I was 3), some events that were not discussed, led to my mother having a one time "fling" if you will, with my "father"s cousin. (From what I've gathered, it was a complicated situation. Okay, I'll take that.) I asked my mother if there was any chance that this other man could be my father, and she informed me, "yes, there is a good probability that he is.". Woah. I did NOT expect this.
So I've been stuck inside my head for a little over 24 hours, with so many thoughts, questions, concerns and feelings.
My mother informed me that she got in touch with this other man, and they talked about the situation. (me now knowing that he could potentially be my father). He asked for some time, and some space, so that he can figure out what the next step will/could be. There is a chance he will ask me to stay away, and not pursue any DNA testing.
I have known this man my entire life as my "Uncle ******". He is married to his high school sweetheart, and they have two adopted children. They are perfectly content in their lives, and I have no idea what to do at this point.
I'm a grown women with PLENTY of "baggage", and I keep thinking, "who would want me coming into their life as their DAUGHTER after 24 years?!". I don't even know if I want to find out. So many things to consider, and I'm making myself sick thinking about it, since I can't talk to anybody I know about it, I would love some input. My world is a little shaken.
Thank you in advance for any kind and encouraging words you may have =)