Trying to make it work

LAKEYA - posted on 09/21/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have 3 small children. Two attend head start and one kindergarten. The father of my children recently abandoned us and I am not managing well. I have to work to pay for things on my own. I have no family members willing to help just point out my situation. I work 12hour shifts night at that and can't even get my kindergartener to school on time. He is in a really great school. Does anyone know of a home care job hiring as I need to find work that can be juggled around school because child care is so expensive especially for 3. Any help please I'm at my wits end and feel way overwhelmed.

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Ev - posted on 09/21/2014

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Then seek out a family law attorney who can help you establish guardianship but you might still have to set up custody and visitation plus child support. Make sure when you set up guardianship that you retain the custody of your children that these people can care for and make decisions for them in your absence but that you have it stated that once you are back that they return to you.

LAKEYA - posted on 09/21/2014

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Thank you Evelyn,
The police may not help me because there have been protection orders before. I will look at all options. I have even looked and began processes to going into the service. Just have to find someone to keep my kids because he may make it hard to get them back if he keeps them.

Ev - posted on 09/21/2014

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I would also look into getting custody, visitation and child support set up. Most lawyers offer free consults and you can ask questions and get answers. Look into those that deal in family law rather than just whomever you find in the phone book. You could also call the police department and see if you can do anything about getting a restraining order against the threats that way he can not come near you. Once you set up the custody and other things you can actually have the judge put in the visitation and so on that a third party not related to you or him or the kids be the go between for visits. That might stop some of the threats. I am sorry that your folks are acting the way that they are towards you, it would help if you could have support from them but that is not possible. I know what it is like to try to make ends meet. I am living on my own and have to provide all for just me and I do not make the income I need to get by. But I make it work. I also have a kid I have to support too. I am not sure that home care would pay enough to be enough income to keep things going. Also you might check with family services too again and see if they have other resources they could send you to that they recommend.

LAKEYA - posted on 09/21/2014

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My mother doesn't talk to me because she can't rule over my life and my father constantly puts me down. Haven't been close to step siblings at all. As a nurse and the income coming in doesn't qualify me for child can vouchers tried that. The father is verbally and physically abuse and just threatened to beat me up and put me in the hospital if I take the kids to his families home. I'm on a hard stop and don't know which I should do first. I will look into the resources you mentioned

Ev - posted on 09/21/2014

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Have you checked your local sources such as Family services for places to go find child care that is not so costly or tried for a child care voucher? Check with churches too. I am not sure about home care jobs because I do not live where you do. This is a site that is seen internationally so it won't work for you to ask anyone here for job information. Do you have an employment place in your area run by the state where you get information on jobs, job retraining, unemployment benefits and such other services? Why won't your family help you out?

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