TTC 14 months

Rachel - posted on 07/25/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Dear Moms, TTC-ers!

I am already on my 14th month of TTC and still no BFP...
I am 29 and my hubby is 30. We are perfectly healthy, non smokers, non drinkers, healthy eaters, no over or underweight.
In order to calm ourselves we have done the most important check-ups. Bloodwork, sperm analysis, hysterosalpinogram. All results are very good, sperm analysis above expected, tubes are open, my uterine is free of any damages, growths.
I ovulate each month, my periods are regular, 26-27 days, we BBD during my fertile period several times, every other days, I get positive OPK's, I have a tryphasic chart..
I take prenatal vitamins, especially folic acid, my hubby takes zinc.
I had a very stressful year last year, but I managed to get a more balanced life now.
With all the above still no sign of a BFP...

Do you all know if this is normal to take this long? Are there any success stories after 14 months?

I start to think that for some reason I will never get pregnant... I thought that it will not happen straight away, but never thought that it will take soo long...I am trying to cope with it, but gets harder each cycle and don't know what I could do more.

Thank you!

Gr.,Rachel

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Dove - posted on 07/26/2016

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Stress absolutely can have a negative impact on your physical health. There is evidence of that everywhere in the world. Hang in there and RELAX! :)

Sarah - posted on 07/26/2016

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Wanting a child and not being able to conceive readily is probably one of the most stressful things for a couple to face. The reminders are constant. You have done what you can do, and you know the next steps to take. You will hear lots of stories about women who conceived "as soon as they relaxed/signed up for adoption/took a vacation/had drunk sex" In all likelihood, you will be able to conceive a child. Maybe you may need a bit of help this first time, like insemination if the sperm survival is not long. You do have options and there is time. So try to just take a break, turn your back on all the kits, charts etc. Enjoy your spouse and your life. Keep us posted!

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Rachel - posted on 07/25/2016

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Thank you all for your encouraging words. It does help me go on.
I have been doing ovulation kits since the beginning and I do always get a positive result 1-2 days in a row. It has been conformed by the doctor as well with an ultrasound, he can see the ruptured follicle and the fluid in the Douglas "bag". Which is a confirmation that the ovulation has taken place. I have seen a fertility specialist, he recommended all the medical check ups. Next step would be to check sperm survival as the motility and number all above the average numbers. But I am not sure if we should go on yet.. Everything seems fine, perhaps I just really need to relax. Until now I thought that stress cannot affect the physics, and the ability to get pregnant. Now I start to understand that I cannot control everything and I just need to let it happen when its time. But when you see everybody getting pregnant around you, haven baby #1, than baby #2, relatives, people asking if you have conceived, wanting a baby when you are still young, you have a successful career it's very very depressing. I think you are all right, and I really need to have a break. Wish the best to all of you!

Sarah - posted on 07/25/2016

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Primary idiopathic infertility can be stressful, frustrating and very hard to understand. It can take a perfectly healthy couple up a year to conceive. At this point, you have done your part, and I would advise scheduling an appointment with a fertility specialist. While you wait to see that doc, stop all of the schedules, the OPK, the temp taking etc. Relax (easier said than done, I know) but give yourself a 3-6 month break. Have sex, as much or as little as you want, have a few glasses of wine now and then, go back to the days when children were not the first thing on your mind (again, much easier said than done) but with some deliberate effort focus on you and your hubby.
You stated your are ovulating; is that confirmed by the doctor or by the OPK? 14 months is not out of the norm for conception. Frustrating sure, and definitely a sorrowful thing but don't give up hope. You are young, and healthy... you will get there. Best of Luck!

Dove - posted on 07/25/2016

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My friends took 2 years to get pregnant w/ their first child. They tried and tried and nothing was happening (doctors ruled out any medical issues). They decided to stop trying and plan a vacation to Europe... and got pregnant. lol Because it took so long to get pregnant they decided not to 'try' for their second child, but to do absolutely nothing to prevent it... and their kids are 16 months apart. ♥

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/25/2016

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What has the doctor recommended? The more stressed you are, the less likely you will be to conceive. You must find a way to relax and distract you. Sex should be enjoyable, and fun, not scheduled down to the minute or have it be work.

Have you done an ovulation kit? I don't know how accurate they are, but it may help narrow down your best time to conceive. I do not ovulate the norm. I get pregnant the day after my period ends.

If you don't want to do an ovulation kit (which is fine), just have sex every 2-3 days or so. If you have sex daily, he will have less sperm daily. If you feel you need to see a specialist, do so.

A close friend of mine was doing hormone therapy, IVF, everything. She was told she could never get pregnant naturally, and after 3 years of trying every other route, she stopped trying. She conceded, and said she was never going to have children. 1 yr later, she got pregnant. She had her 2nd baby 4 months ago.

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