TTC #2 HELP....

Brittany - posted on 12/20/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Hi, I had a m/c at 8weeks on october 17th....I really took this hard...We have been trying ever since..we have been doing the "deed" everyother day(they say that is the best way to get pregnant fast) I have been taking my vitaims...as silly as it may seem i even leave my feet/legs/bottom/ in the air for about 3-5mins after we have sex......but still i keep getting my period...im really starting to lose faith.....everytime i think i am pregnant i start like two days later,then i get depressed. I know they say try to not try but when you want something so bad you cant just put it out of your mind....
What has really made it hard on me is that my step sister is due 6 days before i was suppost to be due so i hear all about her pregnancy and it makes it hard because i am suppost to be right along with her......I feel like i am such a bad person for feeling this way....

Any advice you can give me would be great!!!

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Kate CP - posted on 12/20/2010

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You need to prop your hips up on a pillow for closer to 30 minutes. Look into fertilityfriend.com and start charting. Talk to your OBGYN and see if they have any recommendations. Good luck!

Louise - posted on 12/20/2010

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You seem to applied alot of pressure to the whole affair. Try and chill out. It is reccomended that you have three periods before you try and conceive again to give the uterus time to heal and replenish. I know how you feel as I had three miscarriages between 8 and 12 weeks. Kate has some really good advice but the best thing you can do is relax and let nature take it's course as all this stress does not help. Try and book a short holiday away where you can both relax your poor partner must be feeling pressured as well. just give it time it will happen!

Emily - posted on 12/21/2010

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The 14-day thing only applies if you ovulate exactly in the middle of your cycle and your cycles are exactly 28 days. Most women are not that predictable. Which is why charting can be good for some women to figure out when exactly they are ovulating.

Christy - posted on 12/21/2010

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Been there, honey. Don't stress about it. Since you were 8 weeks when you m/c, your body is probably trying to get back to "normal" Put off the sex until after the holidays, say in Jan and relax. It will happen for you. And don't feel bad about your step sister having a baby, celebrate it as best you can. The baby you lost was lost for a reason, although this doesn't make it ANY easier on you.



Also, EVEN if you have irregular (or regular for that matter) periods, the best general rule of thumb is you should really TTC 14 days after the first day of your last period. I had irregular periods and this worked like a charm. I got the advice from my friend who is a DR.

Emily - posted on 12/21/2010

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The every other day thing is really a myth. It's okay to have sex every day. Only time this would not be indicated is if your husband has a diagnosed low sperm count. Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. :(

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Essence - posted on 03/23/2014

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I was trying to get pregnant for two years, At one point I started to give up. But I pushed every thing to the side and kept tryin. I was on depo for a year straight got off of it in February of 2012, And i kept trying. It seem like it took forever but in june of 2013 i took a test cause i was a week late and ended up getting a positive result me and my boyfriend was so excited we went out to eat to celebrate my pregnancy but anyways i had been reading on TTC post for a while and i came across this one post that i thought was so stupid but i tried it and it worked. it said after you have sex lay flat on your back with 2 or 3 pillows under neath your bottom in lay there For 15 or 20 minutes. it worked for me. On February. 13 at 6:52 am i delivered a 6 pds 15 oz 19 inches long healthy baby boy. Good luck and don'lose faith baby dust to you

Kate CP - posted on 12/22/2010

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Emily: Sperm are stronger, more mobile, and in more abundance of you wait a day before making the body produce more. Thus, sex every other day is best for conceiving.

Christy - posted on 12/22/2010

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@ Emily, I hate to say but it worked for me, not saying the 14 day thing will for everyone. I had periods anywhere from 30 to 40 days apart before I got pregnant (was married for 12 yrs before we tried-got pregnant first try, had a M/C, got preg the second try (2 months later ) with son and third try for a baby with daughter.. What's weird is after kids my periods they are exactly 28 days apart!

Brittany - posted on 12/21/2010

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Thanks guys, Im trying to just go with the flow and not stress on it but its hard....i guess we shall see what happens next mth...

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