TTC AT 45 AND GETTING BACK ON BCPS

STEFANI - posted on 09/10/2016 ( 11 moms have responded )

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HELLO EVERYONE I WAS WONDERING IF ANYONE WAS IN MY SITUATION.. DR'S TELLING ME IM HITTING POST MENOPAUSAL... BUT I REFUSE TO HEAR IT,....I HAVE A SON HE JUST TURNED 21....I GOT PG IN 2014 BUT HAD A ECPITOIC PG...AT 3 WKS.......I RECENTLY GOT BACK ON BCPS A MONTH AGO.....SOMETHING WAS HAPPENING.....ITS BEEN ABOUT A YR SINCE I HAVE SEEN ANY TYPE OF CYCLE...ONE MO. LATER LAST NIGHT ACTUALLY I SEE SPOTTING.....I AM FULLY ON MY PERIOD AD WE SPESK..I WANTED TO REVERSE WHATEVER MOTHER NATURE WAS TRYING TO DO AND ITS WORKING FOR ME AGAIN....THE PLSN IS TO STAY ON MY BCPS FOR AT LEAST 6 MONTHS...GET OFF AND START AGAIN....THATS HOW I GOT PG LAST TIME....RIGHT AFTER I GOT OFF THE PILL..I AM SO HAPPY...GOD HAS OTHER PLANS FOR ME AND MY FAMILY... I PRAY MY STORY HELPS SOMEONE......

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Michelle - posted on 10/01/2016

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And in regards to typing in all capitals being "your style", hit the caps lock button and then you will be typing in lower case! Amazing that.
It amazes me how people are so ignorant when it come to basic internet protocols and security.

Jodi - posted on 09/30/2016

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We honestly aren't being negative. The fact is, you can't reverse mother nature. Period (no pun intended). If you no longer have eggs in your ovaries (or good eggs), you can't get pregnant naturally. That's just the way we were made. I don't think you are quite understanding how menopause works. Maybe do some research of your own if you can't accept the word of others.

Michelle - posted on 09/30/2016

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We aren't being negative, we are being realistic.
You are born with all the eggs you will ever produce in your lifetime, at your age there are very few eggs left. They are also very old eggs and the fact is, older eggs aren't good at making healthy babies.
YOU are the one that brought up your age and God in the first place, that's why I referred to them as well.
Don't get angry at other for pointing out the reality, just because you live in a delusional world.

Sarah - posted on 09/30/2016

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I have to wonder, when you had your ectopic pregnancy did you lose your ovary, Fallopian tube or have any scarring? If you want a child badly, maybe consider adoption? There are many kids who need loving parents. If your have faith, then trust God will either bring your a child or show you a different path. How does your hubby feels about TTC again?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/29/2016

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You are not hearing anything, and you aren't actually getting negativity.

You are getting truthful responses from women who are actually your age or older. Now, please stop shouting.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/29/2016

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Why are you yelling? Typing in all caps, all the time IS yelling...

As for the rest, good luck you you...

I fail to understand why some people can't accept what is happening with them physically sometimes. I'm 46. If God wants me to have another baby, He will bring one in to my life that needs a good set of parents, and we will adopt.

STEFANI - posted on 09/29/2016

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LIKE I SAID ONCE IM SAYING TWICE...I AM NOT YELLING...THIS IS MY STYLE TO TYPE.....WELL EVERYONE HAS AN OPINION..... LIKE I SAID I WILL CONTINUE TO HAVE HOPE AND THINK POSITIVE....SORRY BUT THE DR'S NOT EVEN YOU HAVE THE LAST WORDS ON MY LIFE.....GOD DOES...I THOUGHT THIS WAS A POSITIVE SITE...ALL IM HEARING IS NEGATIVELY WHICH IS DISTURBING......WHEN I COME BACK WITH MY RESULTS AND LET YOU KNOW IM EXPECTING AND ABLE TO HOLD ANOTHER CHILD......I SAID THE REASON WHY I WAITED WAS TO MAKE SURE MY FIRST BORN WAS OK...REGARDLESS OF HOW LONG ITS TAKING.....I. A REALEST AS WE I ALSO HAVE FAITH IN MY MASTER SO IF YOU DNT HAVE ANYTHING POSITIVE TO SAY...DNT REPLY AT ALL...THANK YOU...AND GOOD LUCK TK YOU TO.

Jodi - posted on 09/26/2016

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Just because you get your period doesn't mean you have any healthy eggs left in your ovaries. The fact that your period is sporadic is indicative that your fertility is minimal. Spotting and having a period after not having one for a year is screaming menopausal. You CAN'T reverse mother nature. You are 45. It's time to accept your baby days are done unless you have IVF, and even then, it probably won't be your eggs.

Just because you got pregnant 2 years ago doesn't mean you are still fertile now. And let's face it - you had a miscarriage. That indicates that maybe there was a problem with the pregnancy, and the chances of that being a result of your age are high.

Shouting at Michelle about "WHAT DO AGE HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING" is not going to help. Age has EVERYTHING to do with it. Fact. And I'll just let you know....this advice is coming from someone older than you. So no, I am not ageist when it comes to this issue. I am a realist. A healthy pregnancy at your age is very unlikely (although not impossible), so you should prepare yourself for the fact that it is not likely to happen naturally, and that if your doctor has told you that you are post menopausal, then you probably are.

I find it odd that you also added that you waited all this time to avoid the autism your son has......that's not the way autism actually works.

STEFANI - posted on 09/26/2016

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I WOULDN'T SAY GOD SAY NOT TO HAVE MORE KIDS....WHERE DID YOU GET THAT FROM....IF I GOT PG IN 2014 I WAS STILL ABLE...EVEN THOUGH IT WAS A EPITOPIC PREGNANCY..... GOD IS ABLE AND I STILL HAVE HOPE....I GOT PG THAT WAY LAST TIME AFTER STOPPING THE PILL.....WHY ARE YOU BEING SO NEGATIVE..... AT MICHELLE WALDBILLIG.......AND WHAT DO AGE HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING...... FIRST OF ALL MY SON HAS AUSTISM SO I DECIDED TO WAIT TO MAKE SURE MY BABY WAS OK.....THATS WHY I BELIEVE GOD WILL GIVE ME MORE....HE JUST TURNED 21 IN COLLEGE AND ABOUT TO GRADUATE IN MAY 2017 W/ 3 CERTIFICATE AND HIS ASSOCIATES IN WEB DESIGN
...AND IM STILL OVER PROTECTIVE OF HIM.....SO YOU CANT TELL ME WHAT GOD CANT DO....

STEFANI - posted on 09/26/2016

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WELL that's my type....I TYPE IN ALL CAPS AND IM NOT SHOUTING AT ALL.....ITS MY STYLE SORRY IF IT OFFENDS YOU....

Michelle - posted on 09/10/2016

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Please don't type in all capitals, it looks like you are shouting.
The birth control pill makes you have a period each month, once you stop taking it you will probably stop your periods as well.
Maybe look into IVF but why are you so determined to have a child at this age anyway? If you so believe in God then why don't you accept that He chose for you not to have more children?

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