Tween

Angel - posted on 01/31/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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How can I get a 12 year old to ask for help when it's not in his DNA to do so? How do I encourage this behavior especially when it affect his grades at school?

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Dove - posted on 01/31/2015

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Ugh... well, good luck! Maybe someone else will have something more helpful to suggest.

Angel - posted on 01/31/2015

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The consequences are taking away the things he loves. He plays basketball for his school. He covets his iPad and iPhone, so those items have been taken away. He is not allowed to play on his game consoles until he manages his time properly for school. His homeroom teacher spoke with my son and I on Monday. She has offered numerous times to assist him, and so have I. I check with him on a daily basis to see if he needs my help on homework assignments. So I am involved, but he refuses to seek help. I don't know if it is out of laziness or pride in trying to keep up with other classmates. Now I have to out him on a schedule and regulate his time. Time management is not his strength, and I don't expect it to be for a 12 year boy. I have to keep trying hoping that he will get it.

Dove - posted on 01/31/2015

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What are his consequences for getting bad grades when he doesn't ask for help? If you know he needs help... why don't you offer to help him yourself? Or send a note into the school asking about any tutoring programs?

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