twin boys fighting

KUDZAYI - posted on 02/19/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




My boys are turning three in April but they fight even for a smallest thing what do I do


Caroline - posted on 02/19/2016




I raised three children, though not twins I had all three in under six years. They are close in age. A lot of sibling rivalry along the way. I am proud of how close they are now that they are in their 20s. Methods that worked well for me were to find out what they are arguing about. Mediate. Never take sides but hear each person's side of the story and help them understand one another's feelings. I always asked my kids to apologize to one another. I told them friends come and go but family is forever. They will always have each other and need to find a way to get along. One important point, they need a break from one another. I would never be able to spend all my waking hours interacting with my husband and spending all our time together. It's important for you and their dad to separate them and play with the boys individually every day to keep them interacting with somebody else. Put time aside every day for something you can do with them. Board games, reading. My kids loved the library. We'd go weekly and spend an afternoon there. Get the boys outside as often as possible. The most stressful times in a family is when children are preschool (due to the physical demand) and again when they are teenagers (due to the emotional demands). Looking back, the best years of our family where from birth through 6th grade. That's when kids see their parents as heroes and it's a special thing. Hang in there and give yourself a break too. It's hard to juggle.


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