Twins waking too early and NOT hungry!!!!

Jo - posted on 08/23/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have 6 month old b/g twins. The g used to sleep 7-7 and the b slept 7-5, but gave him a bottle and he'd go back down until 7 or 8ish. Then a few weeks ago it all changed. They both started waking more and after 3 weeks on solids the sleeping has not changed and they are waking at 3-4 am and keeping me up and down until they are up for what I see as acceptable at 6!??!!?? The girl goes down fine with a dummy and if she stirs before 3.30am inserting the dummy again normally helps. For an hour!!!!! Here's the problem...... They both now are up between 4 and 5 am AWAKE!!! Not really crying but if left too long start to cry out which wakes the other if the other has self soothed back to sleep. Each night the culprit who wakes the other has changed so I know both have th ability to self soothe... Just clearly not on the same night!! Giving a bottle will often cause them to go back to sleep but I don't want to continue this as they will come to expect this when they wake. Their daytime routine is - bottle between 6-7 ( 6 oz ), breakfast at 8am of porridge followed by 6oz milk at 9. Snack at 11 if hungry with juice otherwise it's lunch at 12 with juice. 3pm 6oz milk, 4-5pm tea with desert, 6-7 bath time and 7oz milk thn bed. Both normally asleep by 7.30. They nap for about 1.5 hours in morning and another 1.5 hours in afternoon. Have stopped any napping after 4.... But they are still waking too early. I know I am lucky compared to many who wake throughout the night but any advice on extending the waking from 3 would be gratefully recieved!!! I'm going back to work in 3 weeks and 3 am starts every day befor a full day at work worrying me!!!!! x

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Jo - posted on 08/23/2013

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Thanks for your reply! I totally agree the earlier the wake the easier it is ( certainly if it's one waking ) as they will go back down and you get a bit more sleep!! I think I will try the feed immediately and see what happens. This should stop the other being woken and maybe encourage at least one of them to get into a longer sleeping pattern.
I have already decided me going to bed earlier will help my own tiredness and guess this pattern is normal and I should be thankful they are sleeping until when they are!!!

Mary - posted on 08/23/2013

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Sadly, I'm not sure this is something you can "fix". Chances are, they are legitimately hungry. They are (obviously) growing, and are a little more physically active each day as well. What you are describing is pretty similar to what my own daughter did. She started sleeping through the night at around 3.5 months. It was awesome...I would put her down for the night around 8, and for about 3 months, she would sleep until 7am. Somewhere around 6ish months, that waking time became earlier and earlier, and we went through months of her normal waking time being between 4:30 and 5 am. The only time she slept later is if she was up in the 2-3am range and nursed (sadly, I found those nights easier, since I actually could go back to sleep).

It's brutal, I know, and I can only imagine that this is twice as hard with twins. I just think the best you can do is feed them immediately when they do wake up. For me, trying to wait them out to see if they would self-soothe back to sleep never worked. I would wake up when I heard her the first time, lay there hoping she would fall back to sleep on her own, and still end up getting up when she didn't. It just prolonged the inevitable, and no one got any more sleep this way. I learned the hard way that I absolutely had to go to sleep within a half hour of putting her down for the night if I wanted to get 7 hours or so of straight sleep for myself, so for close to a year, my own bedtime was between 8:30 and 9pm.

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