Vera - posted on 10/13/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
I feel so hopeless. I love my boyfriend, he has a 13 year old that hates me and wishes i was dead. We live together and he has her part time. She pretends that I don't exist. She does not talk to me, she walks right past me without looking at me. She says I am gross and that her father is heartless. We have both tried very hard to reach out to her. She is very angry at everyone in her life. Her father has tried many times to talk with her and she is hateful to him. I am at my wits end. Her birthday just passed and I went out of my way to make her celebration picture perfect, she never said thank you..in fact she never said a word. It is so painful to sit down and have a meal. We have tried and tried to no avail. She now wishes I would die and this feels so horrible for me. Her mother who has never met me but says horrible things about me has her half of the time, she is threatening to go live with her mother IF she can't get what she wants...but nobody knows what that is?
My own kids are grown and gone...I do love children, I was looking forward to having fun with his daughter. but at this point i just don't know what to do ? the ONLY time she talks with her dad is if she wants something...I have really gone overboard to be kind to this child...she just hates me so much. I've never been hated so much. I am worried because she is a very large child and she watches violent television where people stab people...vampire diaries..very violent. ANY help would be nice. I do not discipline her in any way...I leave her alone. I have tried reaching out to her without her dad...and he has tried reaching out to her alone...but nothing. I am worried about her level of anger i've never seen anyone so furious. her mother left her father she was having affairs and no longer wanted to be married. The father is the nicest man. I just don't get it.