Unable to breastfeed

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With my first child I wasn't able to breastfeed. I tried but found out I wasn't able to produce enough, and it was the most upsetting depressing time for me because it was really important for me to provide for my son in that way. My question is.. Im pregnant with my second, will it be the same way with this one or is there a chance I'll be able to breast feed?

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All the advice here has been good. A good lactation specialist may be able to help you a lot but it may interest you to know that latest research from Europe has found that some mothers produce too much of a hormone that prevents the milk supply increasing and that bottle fed babies fare just as well so mothers should not feel quilty. What's most important is a happy relaxed mother and baby

Sommer - posted on 02/14/2010

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There is almost never a time when a mother really can not produce enough milk--usually it's something that is getting in the way. It is very important to try to get as much rest as possible, drink lots of fluids, try to get lots of support so you don't get stressed out--these things will all lower milk supply. Also, one of the biggest reasons I've personally heard from friends who are having a hard time breastfeeding and feel they aren't producing enough is that their baby is breastfeeding too often and for too long. The reason babies do this is to increase milk supply. If you feel you aren't producing enough and supplement with ANY formula, water, etc, your baby's demand for milk will go down and therefore your supply. It is best to wait it out a bit and just feed "on demand" as they say. Both of my children had periods right after birth and every few weeks for the first few months that they would breastfeed about every 30-45 minutes for 20-30 minutes at a time. No joke! It's demanding but if you really want to succeed long-term in breastfeeding you have to make the commitment to feed your baby whenever and for however long that they want because they know how much they need. If you do this there is very little chance you will have trouble with your supply.

Cassie - posted on 02/08/2010

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I believe you will be able to breastfeed your second. I'm just wondering, how do you know you weren't producing enough with your first? Many mothers, myself included often fell that we aren't producing enough milk to satisfy our LO's especially in the first 8 weeks and at any time of a growth spurt.



When your second arrives, I suggest you just nurse, nurse, nurse. The more you nurse, the more milk you create. I also suggest trying to find some mothers in your area who breastfeed. La leche league is often a place where mothers are able to come together and learn about and help each other with breastfeeding.



I would also suggest getting into contact with a lactation counselor after your baby is born. They will be able to help you with any difficulties you have and can answer any questions. One thing that made me feel much better about breastfeeding my daughter was that I was able to go to the lactation counselor's office, weigh my baby, nurse her, then weigh her again. This was able to show me exactly how much she was getting from me. I thought I wasn't producing enough when in fact, she was actually eating a lot!



If you want to be successful, I just really suggest allowing your baby to nurse on demand at first to build up a strong supply and get lots of practice.



Good luck!! :)

Marcy - posted on 02/08/2010

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Shannon go to a Lactiation Consultant.....its the best thing you could do for yourself and your baby. Also, there are breastfeeding circles on this site and the moms are super helpful.

Nadine - posted on 02/22/2010

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This happened to me, too. I was able to breasfeed by first child for almost 3 months but I had to supplement with formula. I nursed her for 2 weeks and she kept losing weight. So with my second child, my son, I supplemented right away because I didn't want him to lose so much weight. For a few weeks I produced more with him than with my daughter but still wasn't producing enough to soley breastfeed. I even tried the Mother's Milk tea and taking Fenugreek but that still didn't seem to help. I was able to breastfeed my son for only about four or five months but that was also with supplementing formula. I was very depressed when this happened with my first child because I know it's the best thing for them. I was hoping I wouldn't have the same problem with my second child but I did, even though it wasn't as bad. I would try again and find a lactation consultant. Good luck.

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Adena - posted on 08/05/2013

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iam a first mom and i wanted to brestfeed my baby. but my baby doesnt like it. she's 2 mos old now and i a really wanted to breastfeed her. but the i think the milk can not produce already. do i have a chance to revive the milk that lost in me

Erin - posted on 02/17/2010

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I went through the same exact concerns. I just assumed with my first son that I would be a total milk cow like my mom, who always had a surplus, with all four of her kids. It broke my heart that I had to supplement with formula. (He got most of his nutrients from formula but I still produced a little so we did both.) I felt like a failure. I let Paul nurse until I was about 4 months pregnant and then weaned him to give my breasts a chance to "recharge" or whatever. I was TERRIFIED that I wouldn't produce enough for Sean, and had him weighed frequently to make sure he was getting enough... It turns out my milk came in fine for a stay-at-home mom, but I am never really able to pump any surplus, so I feel my supply would have been compromised if I were working. Unless the doctors told you there is a physical reason for not being able to breastfeed, keep up the hope and give it your best shot. It isn't failing if you have to supplement or go to formula afterall! LOL

Melissa - posted on 02/14/2010

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I also had this problem...the latician's where telling me to be patient and my milk would come...but after 3 weeks and my daughter only gaining a couple of ounces and crying hysterically and none of us getting any sleep...I decided to give her formula & what a change...she doubled her weight in just a few weeks & would sleep 4-6 hours straight.

I personally feel that if I had pumped right away and took advantge of my husband & family supplementing her so I can get a bit of sleep would have helped with my milk production. sleep, eating well and drinking alot of water helps tremendoulsy with your millk production and is very hard to do with a newborn...I know of alot of women who couldn't produce enough for their first but did just fine for their second...it depends on the baby & now you know...take all the help that is offered. good luck!!

Erika - posted on 02/14/2010

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I'm not sure, but I've been told that every pregancy is different. I have sickle cell anemia and a daughter whose 12 now. I was only able to breastfeed for a month b/c i had to take some heavy medicine and so I didn't want to pass that on to her. Yet in that month I felt like I wasn't giving/producing enough milk for her. Shortly after feeding her, she would be hungry again. At a pediatric appt, I talked to the doctor about it and he said that some breast milk was better than none at all. He also could tell that she had breastmilk after her exam I felt better. So, for that month, I did both-----breastfed and similac.

Julieann - posted on 02/14/2010

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Each baby is different and each time. Things were fine with my first till 8 months then she couldn't get enough & quit. My second my milk started slow and it took 5 weeks or so to catch up, I just kept doing what I could and giving formula for the rest. (Always after the breast.) Once we got through that all went fine and in the end my husband started teasing me about how big he was getting!

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Hi Shannon. I hope you will be able to breastfeed your second child with the help of suggestions mentioned below. However, don't worry if you are not able to. I was unable to breastfeed my daughter (she was not latching and I didnt have enough milk) and was really depressed for months as I was surrounded by moms who were stressing me out saying that its bad for the child's immunity and bonding..but she's 3 years old now with a strong immune system and is a happy, healthy and well-bonded child.

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When my first child was born I was trained through a government program for breastfeeding peer counseling and I breastfed two children a long time each. First of all you must relax and enjoy the process of breastfeeding you LO. With out relaxation your milk may not come down and a weakling won't try hard enough. Next there is no sin in supplementing if you have a vigorous eater and can't relax enough. There only possible harm here is a reduction in your supply as the LO's demand is filled with something else. The very best thing you can do is lots of breast feeding and with another child around that will be an added challenge. Get a book basket and make it reading time or turn on a CD and make it listening time. One last thing You can do things to increas production. Make sure you are getting plenty of water yourself and there is some supplements you can take that help boost milk supply. copy and past this to your browser for more details. http://www.breastfeedingbasics.com/html/...
Above all just love you LO and enjoy those early days. They grow up too fast mine are 16 and 12 now.

Heather - posted on 02/13/2010

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I had the same problem with my first born plus she was 2wks early due to emergency c-section which didnt help, when I was pg with the boys (twins) I was determined to bf them however hard it was going to be.... I made my views clear at the hosp when they were born and had heaps of help expressing and also was given tablets to bring on the breast milk. I managed to bf them for 6mths - 3mths on the breast full time and the last 3mths part-time with the help of expressing. speak to the hosp when you have your baby I am sure they will help out as much as possible.

Erin - posted on 02/13/2010

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Oh! also Fenugreek! I took this suppliment until I stopped breastfeeding! It worked great. It is very rare that a person cannot breastfeed due to a physical problem with themselves, rather, a baby latch issue is more likely. My child was born with an abnormally small mouth, and was only 5 lbs, therefore, did not develop her abilities to breastfeed until she was already used to not being able to get anything from me. Don't give up!

Erin - posted on 02/13/2010

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Do you have a double pump? As soon as your miilk comes in (it doesn't hurt to do it even before then either), try breastfeeding - unsuccessfully or successfully, then, when your baby is finished, pump for 30 mins. Do this for the first 2 weeks after the mil.k comes in. Double pumps will make this less time consuming and yield results better. If you notice you are producing enough milk to feed your baby, continue to post-pump for 15-20 mins after each feeding for the first month. This kick starts your glands and gets them ready to produce more milk as your time continues. I could not breastfeed with my first, and it was really important to me, so I did this routine (even though my daughter's latch was unable to succeed in working) for months after she was born, and typically got enough to feed her in the pumping session, which I fed her in very slow natural flow bottles. She and I were fine (although it is exhausting) until about 4 months when my milk began to run out. But the first 3 months, statistically, are the most important for breast milk. So we got that far and then some! The post-pump method is worth a try, and the double Medela pump n style is worth every penny (especially when you factor in the cost of formula!)

Breanna - posted on 02/12/2010

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i had the same problem with number one. and im proud to say that i have been exclusively breastfeeding number 2 for six months and going strong!! i work fulltime and am able to pump just enough for him to eat at daycare with sometimes enough left over for a night out with the hubby. i didnt do anything different, my body just knew what to do!! my advice is to just keep trying, keep a positive outlook and dont give up!! good luck :)

Krista - posted on 02/12/2010

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It's very possible that with your second child you'll be able to produce more. First of all, you'll be a bit more relaxed because it won't be so unfamiliar to you anymore and you'll know what nursing holds work for you and what ones don't. As well, it's possible that your body will have taken its cues from your new hormones, and your milk will come in more quickly and you may even develop a stronger canal system. Either way, definitely visit a lactation consultant (make sure it's one with whom you're comfortable -- this is a vulnerable time, so you don't want to have an LC who doesn't make you feel supported) so that you can maximize your chances.

Kristina - posted on 02/12/2010

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I think with your second child, your milk will come in quicker. Mine didn't come in until after we had left the hospital and I called one of my friends who had her second child a week before I had my first and she said her milk came in after the first day. So I think that will help with this child. I also agree with someone's comment about the lactation consultants. I went to our lactation consulatant three times in the first two weeks. My daughter and I really struggled because she wouldn't latch on. I had to finally start using a nipple shield to help. I also agree with the person who posted about getting a pump in the hospital to start stimulating the breasts.

Best of luck!

Rebecca - posted on 02/12/2010

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I fully empathise with you. I was able to breast feed my first child up until about 12 months and weened him off. I was hoping to do the same for my second child but I was under a lot of stress (due to my husband having an affair) and I was not able to breastfeed her. I tried and tried for 3 months and she was a very upset baby who always wanted more. I then realised that she wasn't getting enough and had to put her on formula. At the time I was devastated and found it hard to bond with her. But I just kept thinking of the health and nutrition for my child and unfortunately I could give her the same as her brother. Once I got over the initial feeling of uselessness and inadequacy things were better and I actually found it a lot more convenient and way less draining on me, so I was able to have more energy for my children. I know it's hard and if you gave it your best try, that's all you can do. I guess it depends on why you couldn't breastfeed your first one but every pregnancy and child are unique so have hope that you can this time. But if you can't do not take it to heart. I know easier said than done sometimes. As they say 'Everything happens for a reason, even if we cannot understand that reason at the time."

Good luck and take care

Barbara - posted on 02/12/2010

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Do not worry about not being able to breastfeed. Sometimes it is not successful with the first child, but the second has no problem. I breastfed all 5 of mine--not easy, but possible. The best thing you can do is talk with your doctor or contact La Leche League for tips on successful breastfeeding. Most cities have a local chapter and have lots of tips from moms who have been there!
A big problem some moms have with not producing enough milk is not providing enough nutrients to themselves--if you are not well nourished or well hydrated, your body will not cooperate (produce enough milk or even "let down"). Keep positive!!

Baby Maker - posted on 02/12/2010

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Oh and another thing is never rely on what you can pump out.... I have fed all 4 of my children and yet when I try to pump I am lucky to get 10mls!! Some people just cannot pump milk out.. I personally feel like a cow and so it just doesn't work for me..

Good luck and I hope you get the breastfeeding relationship your after :)

Baby Maker - posted on 02/12/2010

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A lot of people have already given some very helpful information.

1 piece advise I think is crucial is DON'T go by a Dr's opinion. Unfortunately they only have a certain amount of education in regards to breastfeeding. A lot of Dr's have outdated education and often rely on their own personal experiences. With this baby I would seek out a Lactation Consultant they know a lot more about BFeeding than a Dr.

Only 5% of women cannot breastfeed due to a medical condition. A lot of women stop breastfeeding from lack of support and wrong information given by Dr's, friends and relatives.

I am sure you will have great success in breatfeeding IF you get the right support and you stop doubting yourself. Look after yourself by resting and keeping up regular healthy meals. Another useful tip is go to the healthfood stores and get some Fenugreek and other breastfeeding supplements that can aid in breastfeeding stores.

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Amanda, don't feel like a failure. You sound like a great mother and you tried your best. I understand the feeling of not being able to breastfeed, I got extremely depressed after I had to stop. I know people that don't breastfeed don't know this feeling but it ultimately is the worst feeling (at least it was for me). When we took our son to the pediatrician and I found out he lost weight I nearly cried right then and there because I felt like I was killing him by choosing to breastfeed, I immediately started supplimenting with formula after that appointment. I was so stressed out by that point my milk production dwindled, I was only able to produce about 1 ounce in the beginning anyways but after supplimenting and all the stress.. I wasn't even able to get but a few drops. I remember trying to breastfeed one night and my son was refusing my breast completely so I went to use my pump and only a couple of drops came out. I lost it that night, I hated myself so much. What made it completely worse was when I was told by someone a few nights later to quit breastfeeding just so I could go back to work (although my husband and I decided for me to stay at home)... and that person meant to be hateful about it and I will never forgive him for it. Im pregnant with my second and Im scared it will be the same thing all over again but Im going to try my best. The doctor is working with me. Im getting a prescription when I have the baby thats supposed to help, Im getting an expensive pump instead of the cheapy I used last time, Im going to go to a lactation specialist, and Im going to a counseler to help me deal with stress. If it still fells I know I will be upset but feel good knowing that I tried my best. And my husband is extremely supportive and I love him so much for it. I wasn't going to try to breastfeed this baby but he talked me into it and Im glad he did. ( but he may of just did it so Im the one that has to get up at night to feed the baby lol j/k)

Amanda - posted on 02/12/2010

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I read this post and almost cried. I had the same problem with both of my kids. I tried so hard to nurse my first child but, after a couple weeks, she had lost so much weight and was becoming jaundiced so the pediatrician immediately told me that I was going to have to switch her over to formula until my milk came in. I would start off by nursing and then hubby would give her a bottle while I pumped. But I could never get more than an ounce or two when I pumped. And every day, I was able to produce less and less while pumping. I work full-time so I knew she was going to have to be on the bottle at eight weeks anyway so I finally gave up and let her enjoy the bottle. It was slightly better with my son but, again, I was never able to produce enough to not have to always supplement with the formula. I'd nurse, and then pump - but I still never got very much to come out. When the milk dwindled to almost nothing with each pump, I finally gave up, knowing that he'd had to go to the bottle anyway at eight weeks. I read all the books, talked to lactation consultants and realized that I really wasn't feeling the let-down sensation at all. Never had any problems with leaking because nothing just ever came out. One day, I expressed my frustration in front of my grandmother and she told me that she had never been able to produce enough to feed her three boys either. She told me that her milk just never came in - no matter how hard she tried. So I guess maybe it's hereditary? Regardless, my dad and his brothers turned out to be healthy, strong guys so it made me feel so much better. We're hoping to have number 3 eventually and I've pretty much decided that I'm just going to start out with formula right away. I hate feeling like a failure every time I tried and failed to nurse and watching so little come out with each pump, so I think I'm just going to not stress about it this time and start off with formula right away. My husband LOVED feeding the babies and has always thanked me for giving him that opportunity (not that he wasn't encouraging my breastfeeding attempts). So at least I always felt like a good wife! :-)

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I couldn't breastfeed my first child, either. He was premature and my breasts simply wouldn't produce milk at that point. However, with my second child I had no problems at all. When you give birth, ask you speak to the lactation consultant at the hospital. She'll be able to help you. Good luck!

Erica - posted on 02/11/2010

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I wanted to say also, that I have wanted to give up several times. Remember though that even if you can only give your baby a little bit, it is better than nothing. So if you really want to and you have trouble... just do what you can.

Erica - posted on 02/11/2010

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I am actually having this problem right now with my first child who will be one month this Saturday. I have seen a lactation specialist and have gotten a lot of helpful tips from them. First one person talked about Fenugreek, and I have not used this but I heard that it helps. There is also an herbal tea called Mother's Milk that helps. I have tried that and I also got put on a pill from the doctor called Reglan. It is not for producing milk but they found that it helps. I am taking this and I found that I am producing more. If you think that it is a latching problem talk to a lactation specialist about (I think its called a SNS) which is a secondary nursing system or something like that, it if happens with this child. I found that this works great. I supplement with formula and you put the formula in this container and it has a small, soft tube that you put in the child's mouth at the same time they are sucking from the breast. This way it keeps them sucking from the breast which stimulates your milk and they are getting filled up with formula and breast milk at the same time. Then eventually you can take this away. This worked for me but unfortunately it is a little inconvenient. But it got my son latching really good and now he can go back and forth between a bottle easily.

Jennifer - posted on 02/11/2010

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if u weren't able to breastfeed ur 1st, chances r u may not be able to with ur 2nd one, u never know. i was not able to make enough milk for my 1st son but i did breastfeed him for 6 1/2 months in addition with the formula. now that my 2nd child, a daughter won't latch on at all. i did have some milk but the plm was her, she just don't want mommy's milk at all and won't latch on at all. so she is being formula fed using gentlease. the regular formula was too hard on her stomach. so, don't feel too bad about not being able to breastfeed ur child. don't pay attention to nurses who tell u to keep breastfeed or pump. it did not work. my body simply does not produce enough milk no matter how often i feed or pump. i forgot the term for it for us moms who don't make enough milk.

Jenn - posted on 02/11/2010

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I had the same situation with my son. He would latch perfectly (or so said the lactation consultant), I carried him everywhere permanently attached to me and he still wasn't getting anything. I called lactation consultants and did everything, including taking a million doses of that feenugreek stuff. It was a horrible time for me as I wanted to nurse my child knowing that is the best thing for him. It ended up being that I pumped every 1.5 - 2 hours and still only got about 2.5 ounces in a 24 hour period. We gave him what we could but it was too much for him to switch from breast milk to formula. so we switched him permanently and he has been wonderful ever since. My doc told me that it doesn't mean that a second baby wont be able to nurse either due to low supply but to try it and know going in that other alternatives are available. My doc gave me great advice.... having a newborn is hard enough, try not to make it harder than it absolutely has to be. If it isn't working, mourn it for a few days, then start enjoying all the little things about your baby. I cant tell you how much that helped to hear it from the expert

Charlotte - posted on 02/10/2010

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No. I had to supplement with my first child but not with my second, each baby is different.

Becky - posted on 02/10/2010

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Manu G - Love Love Love your response - I agree with you completely - it is overrated!!

Becky - posted on 02/10/2010

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Shannon, I totally know how you feel. I have three children and was not able to breast feed my first two at all. My oldest was tongue tied and by the time the doctors figured it out, she was already established with the bottle. I know what it feels like to be depressed and feel like an unfit mother and I blame that in part on the nurses and doctors (and some of the more judgemental moms) who made me feel like that. Their judgement rained down on me at every visit or in every conversation, but in the end it was my mom who helped me understand that I was still giving my daughter the nutrients that she needed because I was pumping into a bottle. Just because she wasn't getting it from my breast didn't mean I was depriving her in any way. My son was a whole other situation, but I did for him what I did for my daughter and by my third breast feeding was finally successful, however it didn't last long with her as she had jaundice and had to be incubated 36 hours after birth - and of course the only way to clear jaundice is by drinking and urinating. She was 2 weeks early, so my milk had not really come in and so I had to supplement her with formula at the hospital in order to make sure she was taking in enough fluids and getting enough hours in the incubation chamber. Needless to say that by the time we left the hospital 3 days later, she was taking the bottle better then the breast, so once again I pumped. I'm sorry for the long winded response, but as a mom who has been in your situation 3 times over, I felt compelled to write as the feelings of failure that I experienced brought on post- partum for me with my first and second, and I would hate for you to experience that. Breast feeding is not as easy for all moms and there is no shame in that. Follow your mother instinct and shut out the voices of disapproval. Trust that you and you alone will know what to do and what is best for you and baby. Good luck in the remainder of your pregnancy - I hope this has helped ;-)

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Hi,
I had this very problem with my first. I didn't even try with my 2nd but with our third, I gave it a real effort. See your Dr before the birth and get a prescription for Domperidone. It will increase your milk supply and you can take it immediately after the birth. And make sure you nurse often and if you don't nurse off one breast, consider pumping the other one to get your supply up.
A good lactation consultant is so important. Find one you like and feel free to use her often. Mine came to the house several days to help and see how it was going.
Good luck!! You can do it!

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I had the same problem, and I had to supplement with formula because Mac was so Jaundice. I used the breast pump from the hospital for the first month. After nursing mac my husband would give him a bottle(the kind with 2 nipples) and I would pump until NOTHING came out after a little while i did not add the formula and I had to stop pumping because he was gagging there was too much milk. I am still nursing at night and he is 2 ( i think it only took about 2 weeks) He would not nurse on teh left for about that long, too much bruising

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I agree completely with Cassie's response. I had trouble with my first and was only able to pump milk for her for four months. My second is an eating machine. He is ten months old and going strong. Now I am in the process of weaning him. He was a much better eater and latched on better than my first, but also I think I realized that for the first 8 weeks all I should do was nurse him. It seems like he wanted to eat all the time and he did. If it seems like they are nursing all the time, keep going - I did and nursing soon got into a nice pattern and was so easy! It is hard, but get support and keep at it!
Mothers Milk Tea helped

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You can do this, Shannon! I would suggest seeing a lactation consultant and/or the La Leche League in your area BEFORE your baby is born, so you have lots of information and facts. But as others have said, each breastfeeding relationship is different, so chances are that you'll be able to feed your next bub.

But if you choose not to, or it's stressing you out, don't beat yourself over the head about it! You're caring for your baby and that's the main thing!

And please, don't ever feel that "your body failed" - and I've got to say, Sharon, that I feel this is a very negative thing to say, ant helpful to anyone's self-esteem.



All the best, Shannon.

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Shannon,

I say give it a shot and try again! Kellymom is a great website. Check into LLL and if you have problems early on find a Lactation Consultant. You can do this !!!! Hugs!!!

Sherri - posted on 02/09/2010

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I could not breastfeed my first child either. He was tongue tide and could not latch on. I know that depressing feeling you are talking about. I tried pumping but didn't produce enough milk either, I understand how hard that is and the feeling. The good news is when I had my second child she was fine and I was able to breastfeed. I think every baby is different and our bodies change with each pregnancy.

Crystal - posted on 02/09/2010

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There is always a great chance that you will have a very successful breastfeeding relationship regardless to your past experiences. If there was nothing medically wrong that would effect breastfeeding, every situation is different, and you shouldn't have the same problems as before. If you have an open mind, be patient, relax and enjoy the moment you will be fine. If latch on is a problem, remember to be patient with yourself and your baby. Try different postions, ask an experienced person to help you, don't be self conscious about your body, allow someone to actually help you with postioning...even if that means they have to touch your breast and your baby to help you position you all correctly. Try music, looking at your baby, deep breathing, sometimes a colder room can help your nipples protrude enough for the baby to get a good latch on. Drink plenty of fluids and most of all don't put too much pressure on yourself and stay calm...I know it's hard with a crying baby who wants to eat but the oral stimulation is the most important part to building a good supply of milk...so good latching and putting the baby to the breast as often as possible is the best thing to do, and meditate, relax and don't stress too much...you can be successful.

Jenny - posted on 02/09/2010

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Melissa I'm so sorry, how disappointing! And shame on your mother-in-law!! And shame on the dr too, if they would just be a little more PATIENT so many times these things resolve themselves! Were you able to nurse your other children?

Melissa - posted on 02/08/2010

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I was in the same boat... my milk did not come in fast enough for my first... he was jauiced and the doctor said his body could not get rid of it unless he was getting more nutrition. So he had me give my son a bottle I did it once( becasue later that smae day my milk came in day #4) but my son would not latch back on... I was so dissapointed and to make it worse my mother-in-law made me feel like crap becasue she said that I did not care about my son enough to breast feed him... But i think you should try again!! good luck ~melissa wood~

Tamra - posted on 02/08/2010

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I had a c-section and never did produce "enough" milk. I did keep breastfeeding though. I always offered breastfeeding first followed by a bottle. It was a lot more work but worth it. I almost gave up. With the c-section your milk doesn't come in the same way. My friend that is a nurse told me after that I should have requested the breast pump in the hospital. Not so much to gather the milk but to help provide extra stimulation. I rented a pump at home when my son was a week old and it did the trick to bring my milk in. Like I said though, I never produced enough to fully satisfy my son's hunger but I did breastfeed until he was 6 months old and I'm glad I did. Good Luck!

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Yes I had a c-section, I went in to be induced because they thought I was going to have a large baby but I didn't progress any so I had a c-section

Amanda - posted on 02/08/2010

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Good Luck. I think the 2nd one will be different for sure. Different baby different appetite. Different labor. Do the best you can. Nurse as much as possible and offer the bottle after the breast. Did you have a C Section?

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It's obvious that you did everything you could. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, but don't ever feel like you are less of a mom. It's your love that feeds that baby whether it comes from a bottle or your breast! Good luck with the next one, I found that I had more milk with each baby, so I hope it's the same for you! If you aren't able to produce enough this time either, you can still let your baby nurse for comfort even if you need to supplement.

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I agree: you're putting too much pressure on yourself! i'm not going to say that breastfeeding is over-rated (mainly because of the angry responses i would get from many mothers out there ;-) but let's be honest: have you ever seen a child that wasn't thriving on formula?! and at the end of the day: that's what counts!!!

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My son lost weight between visits at the doctor so thats why they told me I wasn't producing enough, I also tried pumping but only got about half an ounce. I tried a lot of things like feeding/pumping a lot, heating pads, massaging the breast, and the fenugreek tablets but nothing helped. I was told by the doctor that it could have been stress that caused it, I still have those same stress factors but Im going to try my best to not let things bother me as easily as before and Im going to try to breast feed no matter what. Thank you everyone for the support : )

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cant say what it will be like with your secound but i know how u feel! i had trouble latching my son on when trying to breast feed and eventually the stress stopped my milk coming in completely and was ver upsetting not being able to breast feed him, i have had friends with the same problem and they have been fine secound time round!

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When I had my kids i made the mistake of ,the baby is sleeping now it is time for me to get the housework done. Then i wasn't drinking enough only at meals. My sister reasted when the baby slept to restore her body and always had a glass of water in her hand to keep her from drying out. I had the same problem as you and if I were to do it again i would rest more and drink more. See if some one could help out with your other child.

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How do you know you weren't able to produce enough?
I find a lot of women don't realize that their supply is fine. Not being able to pump doesn't mean anything, not being able to manually express doesn't mean anything either.
If your baby is gaining weight, you're fine.
I'm not trying to unvalidate your position, it's just that there are A LOT of women who assume they don't have enough, when in reality this is not true!

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Don't be upset with something you can't change. Only with the things you can't but won't. If your unable to breastfed, try too move on and be thankful for a healthy baby and the time you get too spend. Sometimes nature needs alittle help and that is one reason for formula. I never breastfed from the start, so I can't say I understand the reason for being upset. Just love what your body has provided for your baby and move on about the things your body isn't able to do. Best wishes

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very true Sharon. We are very lucky we have something if the mother's milk just doesn't come in. It is also very possible to do both although it can sometimes be a bit harder at first to keep your breastmilk supply up when supplementing.

And I agree. There are so many things that we beat ourselves up over and it really does no good. If you, Shannon, are unable to breastfeed your second, you won't love him any less or be any less of a mother.

Sharon - posted on 02/08/2010

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I'm with and for me - I wasn't able produce enough to feed my babies either. I did pump what I could and then supplemented with formula so they got the important nutrients.

Stop beating yourself up. Your body failed. Its not your fault. Hopefully this time it won't.

This has been an issue through out history and is one reason why wetnurses were invented. Later formula was created and "formula" has been around for hundreds of years where people mixed sugar water with cows milk to support a baby who's mother was ill, dead or unable to breast feed.

count yourself fortunate to live in a time where there are options and the life of your child isn't really in jeopardy due to a poor substitute!

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If your baby is able to latch you are able to nurse. It doen't matter how much you produce. My two kids were tongue tied and were not receiving enough milk so I supplemented. You can also pump your milk as well it helps you produce more milk. You should see a latation constultant. Good luck!

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The same thing happened to me with my first child. I was really hoping to breastfeed my second one but the same thing happened again. I am not really sure if I didn't have enough, or if they wasn't latching on right. I might of actually had enough but the babies wasn't sucking right. Just because it happened once don't mean it will happen again. If I have another baby I will try to breastfeed again, and hopefully I will succeed.

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