Unable to work because of illness..

Louana - posted on 07/28/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Im not sure how to put this but, I'm a single mum, unemployed and stuggling to make ends meet, can i get your views on how if any of you jave been in this situation, coped.

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Dove - posted on 07/29/2016

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If you have no income and a child... how are you not qualifying for any assistance? What is their reason for rejection?

If you have not applied for disability... go ahead and do so. I don't know about other states, but in mine... once they deny you Legal Aid takes over the case, so it costs you nothing to appeal and you get legal help doing it.

Dove - posted on 07/28/2016

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Is it a temporary illness or a permanent and debilitating condition?

A brief version of my story... I was born w/ a debilitating disorder in my brain. It has caused me certain issues my entire life, but since I am old (hehe)... not enough was known about my condition when I was young. I wasn't even diagnosed til 15 and even then the doctors that diagnosed me were so clueless that they said they didn't know if my headaches were caused by my condition (hello? Brain problem... headaches are the number 1 symptom @@ ).

Anyway... given my age at the time and the idiot doctors... I knew nothing for YEARS. My ex left me w/ three kids in 2008. I knew I could not support them on my own, so filed for and started receiving every type of government assistance available (TANF, SNAP, HUD/Section 8, in addition to the medical we already qualified for). I also started working part time 4 months later. I worked off and on til 2012 when my symptoms and issues began dramatically increasing which led me to do research on my past diagnosis and get updated scans and info.

I applied for SSI August 2012 and was finally approved (after 2-3 appeals,, a court meeting, and more state testing) almost exactly 2 years later. Coping? Well... that is NOT easy at all. It's a constant struggle just physically making it through the day. I am 'lucky' in that 2/3 of my kids are teenagers now (so quite self reliant and pretty helpful... even though social lives lead them to be hardly ever home..lol) and in addition to my SSI I will also continue receiving TANF until they turn 18 (3.5 more years), so financially... we are stable until that point. My son will be 12 then, so I'll have 6 years of 'juggling' the major necessities w/ the necessities that we might be able to do w/out until the point that he turns 18 as well.

I guess that wasn't very short, but I know I left a ton out... I have no idea if any of that helps you or if I just rambled for nothing. ;) ♥

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Sarah - posted on 07/29/2016

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If you have no income you really should qualify for some sort of assistance. Food, housing, medical, there are many resources out there. Visit food pantries to stock your kitchen and apply for disability. Sure, it may take a long time to get it, but if you are disabled; you are disabled.

Louana - posted on 07/29/2016

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Wow...I must say that you sound exactly as i feel. The illness that you described is the same as I'm going through, with no proper diagnosis, and I've tried working. I'm actually a qualified teacher but becuse of these terrible headaches and fainting spells I would have to give it up and anywhere else they would ask me to leave because of to many sick days.
I have a two year old son who starts school son and trust me, I'm real worried because i dont know how im going to do this. I don't receive any financial aid from the government or anywhere. I cant even afford my rent and dont even talk about food and bills .I have to constantly choose between the too and trust me it's heart breaking when my son looks at me and says that his hungry and there's nothing in the refrigerator.
I really don't want to sound so doom and gloomy ,but thats my reality and im weathering as best as i can.I have written and applied for all forms of assistance to no avail.And moneys which i acquired while teaching and working odd jobs went mostly into medical bills and test for my condition. To be honest sometimes i feel like just giving up, but seeing my son's beautiful face jump starts me back into reality and i keep fighting for him (I WAS VERY ILLAND HAD LOSTS OF COMPLICATIONS WHILE I WAS PREGNANT WITH HIM).and that keeps me going. Right now I'm on the brink of selling the few possessions i have to purchase shool supplies for himand some food. Lord watch over us.Thanks for your time and for listening.

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