unborn child custody

Cynthia - posted on 01/26/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm 21.4 weeks pregnant I have a heart problem,depression,and anxiety attacks before I got pregnant I would smoke medical cannabis to help me deal with my pain I got pregnant by my ex bf and we lived together for a while we had some disagreements that lead to brutal fights to the point where he bruised me were no longer together we dont speak at all and he doesn't bother trying to see how his sons doing I'm still currently using medical cannabis but very lightly only when its necessary I cannot handle my pain so I try to relax as much as possible so I wont need it anyways my baby's father recently threatened to take me to court in in school I'm stable and currently searching for a job he's does bad his whole life always fighting smoking and causing problems with the police will he be able to Win custody of our son even tho I have evidence that he isn't a stable person to take care of our son?

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Amy - posted on 01/26/2015

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That is a tough one. I would think that he would some type of custody being that he has not done anything to the child.....yet. I know it sounds terrible, but the courts suck. It seems to me, as my lawyer also told me that there are not laws to protect the child. This is very scary in your case because if he has anger issues than he could possible hurt your son. I would say that you have to prove that is mentally incapable of taking care of your son and you might have to have a psych evaluation done to prove that when he takes you to court. My ex was a huge drug addict and dealer when I was pregnant, I stayed sober and he continued. I left him when our son was 1 and the judge said to me the past is the past...so it made no difference what he did. We ended up getting 50/50. His dad is clean now but is married to a horrible women who treats my son like dirt. It depends on the county of where you live. The old county where I lived believed all men should get 50 placement...to where the county where I live now is more on the women's side. I will be taking him back to court soon...we are working on child support issues right now. Honestly, it is all on what judge you have....which is scary. I would get some free advice from a few lawyers to see what they feel.

Amy - posted on 01/26/2015

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First of all if you are pregnant stop smoking even if it is for medical purposes. You are hurting your unborn child.On to your other question, I personally feel it depends on where you live. What evidence do you have that he is a bad father? You can get manditory drug tests and if he fails that would hurt his chances of getting custody. How often does he see his other sons?

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Cynthia - posted on 01/26/2015

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Our son is going to be our first and he's under a lot of medication for all sorts of reasons sleeping pills,depression,anger problems ect.and evidence as in photos of all the harm he's done to me his younger brother was there when he physically put his hands on me and medical papers of me going to the hospital the day of the beating and I live in California

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