Unfair treatment in school

Patty - posted on 04/03/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My grandson is getting detention and suspension because I can not move up his adhd appointment. It's not until July and principle doesn't want to wait. He is only 6 yrs old in kidnergarden. Suspended for the 2nd time

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/03/2014

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"They are looking for reasons to suspend him.one day another little boy was picking on him calling him names. This went unnoticed to the teacher she did notice early in the day he appeared to be crying so she took him into the hall to ask what was wrong he wouldn't tell her"
~~ He should have told her what was wrong right then. And, he should have continued to tell her each time the other boy picked on him.

"They returned to the class and at the end of the day he had enough of this and threw a pencil not at the other boy he just threw it."
~~Again, he should have brought the problem up with his teacher. Instead, in his frustration, he threw a potentially dangerous object. That object could have injured the other child, and quite seriously, had it hit in the right spot. Pretty much any kid is going to get either detention or suspension for 'hurling missles'. You explained what he'd told you to the teacher, and she changed his seat. Did you explain to him that his handling of the situation needed to improve as well?

"This time he was walking around the room more they said they can tell it out of his control "
~~Was he disturbing the rest of the class? Had he been asked to return to his seat, and refused? There's more to that part of the story, so I'm not going to touch it.

"They are refusing to give him an aid although when they have tried him with one he does much better"
~~Generally, because unless there is a diagnosed condition, they cannot just institute an IEP just because you've requested one.

At this point, you and the teachers should be working together. The child needs to understand that his job is school, and he needs to do it well. He needs to understand that there are inappropriate ways, and appropriate ways to handle each and every situation, and that getting angry is one of the inappropriate ways.

Honestly, it sounds like he's a normal kid for his age, but he needs your parental guidance to develop into the school child. He's 6. He doesn't know appropriate responses until you teach them to him.

I'm not saying don't get him evaluated, definitely do, but don't blame his behaviour on a condition you aren't even sure exists in the child.

Patty - posted on 04/03/2014

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U don't understand it has been. They are looking for reasons to suspend him.one day another little boy was picking on him calling him names. This went unnoticed to the teacher she did notice early in the day he appeared to be crying so she took him into the hall to ask what was wrong he wouldn't tell her. They returned to the class and at the end of the day he had enough of this and threw a pencil not at the other boy he just threw it. Well he got suspended on the way home he told me how he was picked on all day and he got really mad and threw the pencil. I explained this in a note to the teacher and she moved his seat. This time he was walking around the room more they said they can tell it out of his control and keep saying if he just had a little something to get him through the day. I don't know where they thing I will get a little something to give him but he has not even been tested yet. They are refusing to give him an aid although when they have tried him with one he does much better

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/03/2014

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You need to be addressing his behaviours, and not 'waiting' for an adhd assessment. If he has problem behaviours, and it's extending to the classroom, perhaps a system of rewards/consequences needs to be established for him at home.

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