Pearl - posted on 09/16/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
I have known my husband for more than 20years n been married to him for 16. We have two teenagers. Very well rounded n good kids. The problem that I m having is with my husband I think having a midlife crisis. He has been a good father n provider until recently. He quit his job becaus he is stressed n he is tired doing everything. (Working, full time dad by taking kids to their actvities...according to him). Well I have been mostly stayed at home mom for 8 years (but work 6hours a week........to him I don't work). While I m home with the kids I volunteer at their school, cook, shop for food, clean the house, all the other house chores, taje kids to their apptsntake them to school n pick up and to their activities n work 2days but part time. Yes, I m tired n he gets mad at me when I don't want to cuddle up with him or have sex. We always get into fights when I am about to have my periods. It never fails. To me he is controlling n its his way or the highway. I tried to go along with his program but sometimes I m not in the mood. That's when we always end up with arguements n big fights. So a few months ago, he quit his job so I had to look for any jobs beside what I have. So I ended up finding a substitute job n get calls qite a bit. So I m working more days. He started helping me by cooking n washing clothes n telling everyone all the things he does around the house. Well he did that fir very short time n he doesn't do it anymore aside from just drop off n pick up. I m upset because I m not home that often n I m still cooking, cleaning, puck up kids n take them to their activities. So I m resentful n I am mad. But I can't tell him that because he ll be upset n throw tentrum. I can never speak my mind or tell him how I feel. I m totalkt fustrated n again resentful of him. My kids hate him because he is mean. What am I to do? I do pray and been writing in my journal because I needed to tell someone by writing in my journal. One of my friends know about my situation n she tells me to leave because the way he treats me. The ironic thing is that people think we r the perfect family because we always do things together n we are always at our kids event. What are your syggestions? Help please!