Lacye - posted on 12/08/2012 ( 14 moms have responded )
This is more of a rant than anything else but I'm going to let it out anyways.
So at the moment I am 32 weeks pregnant with my second child. For some reason, certain family members of mine see to think that what I plan on doing with my son is also their business. Allow me to give you a few examples:
1. My body has a funny shape. I have what is called a muffin top (top of my stomach sticks out farther than the bottom part). So when I wear my pants, the top part of my stomach sticks over the top of my pants. I have a certain family member that makes little snotty comments about how I'm abusing my unborn child by wearing clothes that are too tight. Now this person I have known her entire life. She is one of my sister's daughters. I have repeatedly told her that my pants are not tight, that it's just the way my body is. Yet she still seems to take it upon herself to inform me that I need to go buy one of those maternity things that stretch over the pants and stomach (I hate those things because they are SOOOOOOOOO uncomfortable and they always roll down on me).
2. Yes I know smoking is a bad habit but when I try to quit, I end up smoking more than I was before I stopped, so it's easier to smoke less than to quit for me. The same niece has gotten to where she calls my child a pygmy because I can't stop. Now as I said, smoking while pregnant is bad, but even my doctor told me that if I slow down (which I really have) then it will be safer for the baby than me trying to quit. I tried explaining this to my niece and she starts with a lecture. I end up having to walk away in order not to beat the hell out of her.
3. I have decided not to try to breastfeed this time around. I had tried with my daughter and I had to have gall bladder surgery not too long after my daughter was born and couldn't eat for 2 almost 3 weeks so my milk dried up. I am going to have my tubes tied this time around so once again, I'm going to have a surgery (I've been told it's not that bad but it still worries me because of my past experience with surgeries). Also, I'm worried about the pain medication they are going to give me afterwards and how that will affect my son. I know that doctors say it won't cause the baby any harm but I'm just not sure I want to trust that crap. Anyways, my niece (after hearing my decision) starts to, once again, jump on me because I don't feel comfortable with breastfeeding. She told me I'm being selfish and I need to get over myself and breastfeed my son.
So pretty much, it's mainly this one particular family member, although it has been some other ones in the past few months that have taken shots at me. I have been polite about the whole thing. I have told her that quite frankly it's none of her damn business. I have even gotten pretty nasty with her about it (me telling her to mind her own damn business was really quite nice compared to when I jumped her ass when she kept on). But it seems like she can't take a hint. She just keeps on and on! I have gotten to where I don't even go around her anymore unless we are at a family function and then she starts her crap again because she knows I don't like to cause a scene when we are at family functions (mostly because either one of my parents are there and they don't like to listen to bitching and yelling). So basically I'm just wondering what else can I do besides just not going to family functions. I don't want her to take away my time with my own family. Any advice for the nosey crazy bitch who can't take a hint?