useless boyfriend

Sharon - posted on 02/18/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter has a boyfriend who is always hanging around doesn't work full time and isnt in school
She lies constantly about where she is and with who She thinks he can come and go as he pleases but I work night and prefer not to have him here.

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Dove - posted on 02/22/2015

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That's why you don't allow the boyfriend around the house unless you WANT him there, but you have to expect that she is going to still see him outside of your house. You can write into the contract that her GPA must remain at a certain point in order for you to keep paying her way.

Sharon - posted on 02/22/2015

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Thanks for the advice.

I don't expect her to check in all the time but we are paying her university costs and medical. She lives here free of charge and has no responsibilities other than her degree so I think we are not asking to much of her to focus on that before her boyfriend
Her boyfriend has no job and mooches when he is here

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/19/2015

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Time for a contract outlining responsibilities, expectations, and house rules for an adult living in your home. It works wonders, and takes the 'blame' out of it. You both agree to terms.

Then, if she chooses to break her contract, you follow through. As far as her 'lying' about where she is...If you don't want him in your home, she's still got every right to date whomever she chooses as an adult...Its time you stopped expecting her to check in with her whereabouts every hour or whatever. You cannot dictate who she sees, or her activities outside the home.

Sharon - posted on 02/19/2015

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Thank you for you're response. No I haven't sad down and explained everything, but I have been very clear about not wanting him to sleep with her.
She is 19 but thinks she can have him here any time she likes.

Michelle - posted on 02/18/2015

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Well if your daughter is living in your house then she needs to abide by the house rules.
Have you sat down with her and explained what you expect in your house?
If not, then you need to do that ASAP.
You haven't said how old they are but even if they are adults, it's your house and can set rules within reason for your house.

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