Using A Doula
Sarah - posted on 02/11/2015
You want your birth to a be happy and memorable event. I loved my OB, but he was in surgery and some random doctor on-call delivered my first, my second was delivered by the nurse in the bathroom, my third by a medical student, and my fourth by my husband (just as a favor from my doctor). If the doula's cost is a gift, then go for it. Childbirth is too unpredictable to be certain the extra service would be worth the cost.
~â¥Little Miss - posted on 02/11/2015
I actually hired a Doula for my last birth. I also had 5 midwifes from the OBGYN practice, along with 1 doctor. I feel if you truly want the best of the best, get a midwife and doctor team. Due to my experience, I would not think about getting a doula again. Here is my story....
My first child was an emergency C-Section. The hospitals in my area when I was pregnant with my second, pretty much banned VBAC'S (vaginal birth after c section) and I was determined to find somewhere that would....and have extra support from a doula. The only practice that I could find was 1 hour away...and it was a midwifery & doctor practice. So, we did not have time to call the doula. She was not the first thing on my mind...
I went into labor FAST! We had to drive very fast to get to the hospital in time which was 1 hour away (60 miles). My husband was driving while I was pretty much sitting on my daughter. I almost delivered in the care, and he was on the phone with the midwife the whole time indcase he had to deliver our baby.
Well, after my daughter was born, safe and sound in the hospital (we made it) we called the doula. She was MAD AT ME FOR NOT CALLING HER! Can you believe that? She was actually pissed off and said we should have gotten off the phone with the midwife and made sure to call her.
Anyhow, I ended up writing an apologetic e mail to her for giving birth without her. FFS. I actually felt bad until I realized WTF?????
So this may have been very much the individual, but she turned me off from the idea of a doula being a good thing. My advice? Find a midwife....they are amazing! At least mine were.
Sarah - posted on 02/11/2015
I have worked with doulas often when I was an L&D nurse. I think it widely depends on what the agreement is between you and your doula. Is she only going to be at the hospital, or will she come help you labor at home until it is time to go to the hospital? How long will she stay? If you labor for 24 hours, will she come and go, be replaced, or stay the whole time? Will she come to your home after you leave? Does she agree completely with your plan and does she get along with your partner? Also, if the hospital has a limit on the number of persons in the room for the delivery, does she count as one of the people? Does your doctor and hospital welcome doulas? IMO, having a knowledgeable friend is just as effective. Spend the money on a house cleaner, baby nurse for a night or two or even someone to come cook for you.
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