Lindsey - posted on 08/18/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )
I am looking for ways to help encourage my 12-year-old stepdaughter to do certain things (keep room clean, put away her clean laundry correctly, do homework willingly, use good table manners, no "sass" talk, etc.). My husband and I honestly aren't fans of giving an allowance, nor do we have that extra money. However she needs something to motivate her and we also want to avoid as many power struggles and arguments as possible.
Being 12, we feel she is too old for a sticker/rewards chart. Maybe not, but that is how we feel. However, she does LOVE candy, chocolate and ice cream. She is highly, highly fond of sweets. We have to limit her or not bring it into the house even. Often she begs us to take her out to get treats at fast-food places, which we rarely do. Then she pouts, naturally. It is as if we have offended her in some terrible way.
I put on my thinking cap this morning though, and I'm wondering if rewarding her for being obedient and helpful with sweets would be worth trying? I'm not sure what type of system would work, but I was thinking that taking her out for a big treat at a restaurant could be a weekend thing after a really awesome week. Thoughts?