Valentines

Ashley - posted on 02/15/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My baby's dad hasn't treated me for valentine's day ??? Today he says if he gets paid he will get me something . It was the same way last year exempt he didn't make up for it last year . I still feel sad about the whole valentine's love day thing and would loved anything to of made me feel special that day but I didn't get anything at all not even special treatment is it wrong for me to feel this way ???

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Ev - posted on 02/15/2016

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Ashely--Valentine's Day was not named for a man who showed his love for doing "something tremendous to show his love for the women he loved that's why they named thid feb 14 after his name ." Valentine's Day is named for a man who is known as St. Valentine.

"The history of Valentine’s Day–and the story of its patron saint–is shrouded in mystery.The Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death. Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons, where they were often beaten and tortured. According to one legend, an imprisoned Valentine actually sent the first “valentine” greeting himself after he fell in love with a young girl–possibly his jailor’s daughter–who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter signed “From your Valentine,” an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories all emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic and–most importantly–romantic figure. By the Middle Ages, perhaps thanks to this reputation, Valentine would become one of the most popular saints in England and France." Quoted from History of Valentine's Day at History.com.

It was not until the 1800's that Valentine's Day cards came into being and other things that we use in celebration of the day came about. It is more a commercial thing than a holiday.

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Sarah - posted on 02/16/2016

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Evelyn! Happy Belated Valentine's Day to you who actually know the history!

Ashley - posted on 02/15/2016

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Yes make sense but I always thought this was the day a man named Valentino did something tremendous to show his love for the women he loved that's why they named thid feb 14 after his name . But yes we are together I made him a turkey dinner for valentine's well for us I guess ur right though it's just a day for flower shops n card company's to make money . I do specials things for him all the time I know My hubby can do the same only when it's convenient for him

Sarah - posted on 02/15/2016

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Valentine's day is one day. I would rather be treated nice and have the occasional surprises here and there then focus on one day meaning "everything". I have been married for 18 yrs. We rarely celebrate much for valentine's day. Not always are the finances there, try finding a babysitter that day, I really don't want to wait 2+ hours to eat, etc. We do little things for each other throughout the year that say, "I love you" that to me is more important.

Raye - posted on 02/15/2016

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You also posted this same thing 4 times. You should go back and delete the duplicate posts.

Raye - posted on 02/15/2016

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My husband and I mutually agreed not to get anything for each other on Valentine's Day, because it's a made-up holiday for card companies and flower shops to make a bunch of money. But, if your baby-daddy said he would, then he should fulfill his promises. Question, though... do you get him anything last year or this year? Maybe he feels that he's expected to do these things to show his love for you, but maybe you aren't doing things to show him you love him? Are you even in a relationship? You didn't call him your boyfriend, you called him your baby-daddy. If you're not a couple, then he shouldn't be expected to get you anything.

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